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I Used to Hate Public Speaking Until…

March 21, 2013 by Sonia Marsh 15 Comments

Sonia Presenting Malibu Bank of Books
Sonia Presenting Malibu Bank of Books

Public speaking is something we all fear, but guess what?

  • You may discover something about yourself you never knew.

For me, this happened the other evening at the Costa Mesa library.

Just like anything else in life, the more you do it, the more comfortable you get. It’s the anticipation that causes anxiety, but once you get going, things seem to flow.

So what changed within me the other evening at the library?

No one showed up.

Yes, you heard me. No one except the librarian, a nice guy named Chris, and his assistant.

Chris said, “We’d like to hear your story, so why don’t you start.”

As soon as I started my power point presentation, three people joined us. I connected with this small group and realized, I am having a wonderful time motivating others to take risks in life, and follow their passions. I am helping people realize that we can always find excuses to not pursue our dreams, and so we postpone them.

I realized that I have a powerful story and message to share, and while looking at my small audience, these people were entertained and totally focused on what I had to say. I felt a rush of adrenaline, and came to the realization that:

Motivating others to stop postponing their dreams causes a reaction I never expected:

  • While motivating others, I discovered that I also motivate myself to keep going.

It all started in 9th grade when fellow classmates made fun of me during my first speech. I have made it my mission to be “gutsy” and overcome this fear.

Here are some tips that work for me.

  • Don’t let pretentious people make you feel inferior.
  • Be yourself
  • Connect
  • Talk about something you love
  • Smile
  • Don’t act pretentious or superior towards others
  • Make fun of yourself.
  • Relax
  • Have a message to share

It feels so good when you can make a difference and motivate one person to follow their dream.

Here is an example of a presentation I made at Malibu Bank of Books indie bookstore on 2-9-13

So I plan to make it my goal to be just like Oprah, who wrote in the April 2013 “O” Magazine:

“When it comes to matters of the heart, emotion, connection, and speaking in front of large audiences, I thrive.”

What about you? Do you enjoy public speaking?

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I wish to thank Bonnie Kassel who wrote a “My Gutsy Story®” and introduced me to Ionia, a book reviewer on Amazon. She gave me an amazing 5 star review and I am so grateful to her. Here is Ionia’s bio:

Ionia Martin is a book reviewer, mother of four and a Ph.D. student in the field of brain and cognitive Science. She has a passion for books, music and photography. When she doesn’t have her nose buried in a book, she likes to spend time working on her charity, dedicated to animal welfare, which should be in full operation late this year. You can find her at http://readfulthingsblog.com or at Twitter via @readfulthings

Do you have a “My Gutsy Story®” you’d like to share?

NOW is the time to submit your “My Gutsy Story®.” Please see guidelines below and contact Sonia Marsh at: sonia@soniamarsh.com for details.

Please read and share our other March 2013 “My Gutsy Story®”  by Bonnie Kassel,  Owen Jones, and Linda Lochridge Hoenisberg

You can find all the information, and our new sponsors on the “My Gutsy Story®” contest page. (VIDEO) Submission guidelines here

How do I get book signings?

February 21, 2013 by Sonia Marsh 33 Comments

 

Cahucer's
Chaucer’s Books, Santa Barbara, California

How do I get book signings?

Please don’t laugh; my answer might shock you.

You have two options:

  • You pick up the phone
  • You drive to the book store

I know this sounds simplistic, but believe me, once you’ve tried, it’s quite easy.

  • The secret is to be confident and come across as a pro.

Here’s how I do it. I start off with a small intro, and brag a little.

“Hello, my name is Sonia Marsh, and I’m a local author. I was interviewed on the front page of the OC Register, and my memoir was mentioned as a “hot read” in OC Metro. Who do I speak to regarding a book signing at your store?”

  • I never tell them I’m indie-published, and they never ask.

Depending on the response, I either e-mail the person in charge, or set a date to drop off some books and sign the consignment form.

My e-mail consists of a similar introduction, short synopsis of my book with links to my press kit+videos,  reviews, and a short bio.

Whenever I have time, I stop at indie bookstores  and introduce myself. I ask for the manager, and compliment them on their store and ask if they would like to keep some copies of my book on consignment. So far, I’ve had no problems leaving copies at various book stores in California, and booking events.

Barnes and Noble, stores are more difficult to get into, unless you started your own publishing company and can therefore offer them the 55% discount rate they “expect” and make the books returnable. This I did thanks to  Linda Austin, and the advice she gave to our Facebook group (please join us) for all indie authors and writers at “Gutsy Indie Publishers.” She has put together several helpful documents on her site’s resources page.

  • I believe the purpose of book signings is to meet people, and not just to sell.

At my last book signing at Chaucer’s, a beautiful book store off State Street in Santa Barbara, I only sold one copy, but I still considered it worthwhile.

Unfortunately, I picked the worst rainstorm night to do a signing, however, here’s why I consider it a success.

Two wonderful authors, and workshop leaders, Marla Miller, and Marcia Meier, whom I met several years ago at other conferences, showed up and we chatted and brainstormed about writing, publishing, promotion, events, contests, etc.

Marla, Sonia and Marcia
Marla Miller, Sonia Marsh, Marcia Meier

Chaucer’s Books has amazing staff, including Erik and Scott.

  • It’s all about word-of-mouth, and I met 3 women who wanted to share my story with their friends, and took several bookmarks
  • I met the co-founder of OneSpiritDancing.org, a man who purchased my book and shared the purpose of his organization with me which is:

“OneSpiritDancing connects women, children and teens in rural West Africa with their counterparts here in the United States. By focusing on movement, song, dance, communication and leadership skills.”

Since I lived in West Africa, and have a desire to help, this was such an unexpected chance meeting.

  • You never know what new contacts may lead to in the future.
  • Chaucer’s book events are advertised on a local Santa Barbara radio station for several days, and mention the author’s name and book.
  • Chaucer’s event planner, advertises the event in local papers.
  • I can always ask for another event when it’s sunny.
  • I  stopped at Apostrophe Books in Belmont Shores on the way to Santa Barbara to was asked to leave some books on consignment.
  • My son is at UCSB, so I managed to have lunch with him.
  • Chaucer’s sold some books before my event and kept 5 extra copies.
  • I never get tired of meeting people, and sharing stories.

What about you? How do you get book signings? Have you tried?

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Do you have a “My Gutsy Story®” you’d like to share?

NOW is the time to submit your “My Gutsy Story®” and get published in our Anthology. Please contact Sonia Marsh at: sonia@soniamarsh.com for details.

Please read and share our first  February’s 2013 story by Sandra Bornstein, our second by Anne Loney, and our 3rd by Diane Danvers-Simmons

You can find all the information, and our new sponsors on the “My Gutsy Story®” contest page. (VIDEO) Submission guidelines here

How Do I Sell My Book?

January 24, 2013 by Sonia Marsh 28 Comments

Booksigning
Sonia Marsh Book Event at Bank of Books in Ventura, California.

How do I sell my book? I want to make money now?

So you’re anxious to make money but acting desperate is not the way to sell books.

What if I told you that you should not focus on  “making money” but on building relationships instead, would you think I’m crazy?

Just like finding the “right” guy—I’m speaking to the single ladies out there—acting desperate is a turn-off. You don’t want to beg and grovel, but you want to come across as proud and confident of your “product”. Oops, did I say, “product?”

So my first question to you is:

Are you proud of your book, I mean really proud? Is this a book you could pitch to the President of the United States, or the first lady with excitement and passion in your voice?

If your answer is “yes,” then I have good news for you:

When you have a great “product” and believe in your work, you can sell it, why? Because it will sell itself.

According to a panel of agents on Barbara DeMarco Barrett’s show “Writers on Writing,”

Indie-published authors have to set the bar higher than traditionally published authors. They have to go “high-end” with their book covers, and their book must be perfectly edited.

These agents pointed out the importance of having an amazing cover and that there are no excuses for a book cover that looks self-published.

I agree with the agents and outsourced my book cover and formatting to a professional company that specializes in book design. I’m proud to recommend 1106 Design.

Now you can move on to the following.

The key to sales is not just one thing, but a mixture of many, which I discovered in the The Frugal Book Promoter, by PR expert Carolyn-Howard Johnson

As she mentions in her book,

BIG WORRY NUMBER SIX: Fear of Marketing. The most pressing fear of all seems to be the fear of marketing.

Here is what I recommend for selling your book. Follow all 3 E’s

  1. Enthusiasm
  2. Effort
  3. Entrepreneurship

We’ve all heard that “word of mouth” sells books, and I believe it starts with a grassroots approach. So how do you start?

The answer lies with connecting and caring about people, not just when your book is published, but long before that.

Develop friendships with:

  • famous authors
  • less famous authors
  • editors
  • agents
  • fellow writers
  • your local journalists (via social media)
  • publicists
  • bloggers
  • book store owners
  • and volunteer at your library, especially if they offer an author program
  • volunteer at writers associations

Marketing is about getting to know people and developing meaningful relationships.

The more people you get to know, the more you can tap into your contacts and ask about:

  • Speaking at various groups (libraries, networking groups)
  • Get sponsors for your book signings and maybe even your book tour
  • Ask your local coffee shops and other businesses if you can do book signings at their location.
  • Help promote other businesses at the same time as your own events
  • Helping others (for example giving a % of your book sales to libraries, to non-profits.)
  • Attending events that interest you so you can meet new people and get ideas
  • Contacting MeetUp groups online and asking if you can speak at their next meeting
  • Start talking to people while standing in line at the supermarket, post office, you never know if they are in a book club etc.

One easy way, is to strike up conversations with people you meet and tell them about your book. Now I don’t mean being obnoxious and saying, “I wrote a memoir and if you go to Amazon you’ll find it.”

I live in a suburban area, and bump into people I know at the supermarket, coffee shops and my gym. I’m good at remembering faces, even after twenty years or so.

The other day, I shopped at Trader Joe’s and bumped into a lady I remembered from somewhere. With a smile, I pushed my shopping cart towards her and said, “Hi, where do I know you from?”

“The gym,” she replies.

“I haven’t seen you in a while, do you still go?”

“I changed to the Aliso Viejo gym,” she said, “I like their cardio equipment there.”

“What about you?” she asks.

“I still workout at the same gym, but I’m so busy now since my book was published.”

From there on the conversation turns to my book, what it’s about, and she asks me where she can purchase it, I hand her a bookmark and my business card, and say, “My e-mail is on my card, and I’d love to hear what you think of it.”

I admit, it’s been helpful to get media coverage as people respond better when I tell them I was interviewed on the front page of the OC Register and how my book was labeled a “Hot Read” in OC Metro.

I then ask whether she belongs to a book club, and how I am going to a book club on Friday evening and have another one next week.

“I love answering questions, so please contact me and I shall be happy to come to your club.”

One final piece of advice

Be Patient.

Now if you know me, you’re laughing your head off as I tend to want things done right away. My husband jokes that I’m one of the most impatient people he knows.

Finally, you can always hire a PR person to do the work for you, but you still need to be enthusiastic and interact with your readers, often at public events  if you want to sell books.

What has worked for you? Please share.

Do you have a “My Gutsy Story®” you’d like to share?

NOW is the time to submit your “My Gutsy Story®” and get published in our Anthology. Please contact sonia@soniamarsh.com for details.

You can find all the information, and our sponsors on the “My Gutsy Story®” contest page. (VIDEO) Submission guidelines here

VOTING for your favorite January 2013 “My Gutsy Story®” starts on January 31st, and ends on February 13th. The winner will be announced on February 14th. We have a new sponsor, Carolyn Howard-Johson, who is offering her e-book as a prize: The Frugal Editor.

Please check out the following January “My Gutsy Story®”

  • Mary Gottschalk
  • Christine Lewry
  • Michael Jay

Next Monday, we have Linda Joy Myers “My Gutsy Story®”

 

 

Barbara DeMarco-Barrett Interviews Indie Authors on KUCI 88.9FM

January 10, 2013 by Sonia Marsh 3 Comments

Barbara DeMarco Barrett at KUCI 88.9FM
Barbara DeMarco Barrett at KUCI 88.9FM

Barbara DeMarco Barrett, author, host of the Pen on Fire speaker series and radio host of Writers on Writing at KUCI 88.9FM, admits she was reluctant to invite “self-published” or as I prefer to call us, “indie-authors” to her show.

I don’t blame her. She has, after all, interviewed several famous, traditionally published authors on her radio show, “Writers on Writing” since its inception in 2001. For example, Margaret Atwood was on her show yesterday, and previous guests such as Billy Collins, Michael Chabon and John Irving.

When asked why she decided to interview indie-authors? Here’s her response.

I wanted to have an indie author show because times, they are a changin’ …. self-publishing is turning a corner and it’s interesting, watching this evolution, how the context of writing is changing as is the content somewhat—as I talked about with Atwood yesterday, the serialized novel is returning (Byliner.com) and ebooks and graphic memoirs are being published more and more. Who knows what’s next or what will take hold?  So with indie authors…writers are no longer so dependent on agents and editors and publishers, and that’s a good thing (and a bad thing, for it undercuts the patience an author needs to put out a work of quality). In short, self-publishing is a mixed bag, but the conversation has begun and is worth revisiting and exploring.

Together with her co-host Marrie Stone, Barbara has interviewed authors of all genres, including agents, with the goal of helping writers learn the art and craft of writing.

Nancy Klann-Moren and Charlie Leister
Nancy Klann-Moren and Charlie Leister

So when Barbara, one of my first mentors on writing, agreed to interview four indie-published authors on her January 2nd, 2013 show, I was thrilled to be a guest.

The stigma attached to being an indie-author is no longer what it used to be. The public is now aware of successful indie-authors like Amanda Hocking, or even J. K. Rowling who decided to sell the e-book versions of the Harry Potter on her website.

Sonia Marsh, Charlie Leister, Nancy Klann-Morel and our host, Barbara DeMarco-Barrett at KUCI-88.9FM
Sonia Marsh, Charlie Leister, Nancy Klann-Moren and our host, Barbara DeMarco-Barrett at KUCI-88.9FM

To kick-off the New Year, Barbara invited four indie-authors to her first “Writers on Writing” show of 2013.  Mary Castillo joined us from Carmel, California, over the phone, while Nancy Klann-Moren, Charlie Leister and myself, Sonia Marsh, sat in the KUCI 88.9FM radio studio in Irvine, California.

After introducing all four of us, we each talked about our books and read a short excerpt. We discussed the following topics.

  • Indie-Publishing (How? Set up your own publishing company-vs. other ways)
  • Cover design, formatting, Outsourcing vs. DIY
  • Distribution- How do you get your book into bookstores?
  • Events-How to book them
  • Virtual blog tours
  • Book trailers
  • How to get reviews
  • Paid Reviews (Kirkus) and others
  • Goals for next book

You can download the entire podcast here, as well as browse the archives from previous shows on Barbara DeMarco-Barrett’s “Writers on Writing” website.

Mary Castillo brought up an interesting point. Her book sales have dramatically increased since she posted a book trailer on her Amazon page.

This is something I have not tried, and noticed that Barbara DeMarco-Barrett, now has a trailer for her book Pen On Fire on her own website.

I asked Barbara who made her trailer, and she mentioned, her son Travis together with Don (The Newport Brothers.)

If you’re interested  (The Newport Brothers) can be contacted through Travis at sivart86@earthlink.net or at 949 554 9422 for book trailers.

If you have questions regarding indie-publishing, please feel free to contact me at sonia@soniamarsh.com, and remember we have a Gutsy Indie Publishers Facebook Group where you can ask 180 other indie authors, experts, editors, cover designers, PR book specialists your questions.

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Do you have a “My Gutsy Story®” you’d like to share?

NOW is the time to submit your “My Gutsy Story®” and get published in our Anthology. Please contact sonia@soniamarsh.com for details.

You can find all the information, and our sponsors on the “My Gutsy Story®” contest page. (VIDEO) Submission guidelines here

You can read the first 2013 My Gutsy Story® by Mary Gottschalk.

Being famous doesn’t guarantee fans will come

December 27, 2012 by Sonia Marsh 6 Comments

John BankofBooksVentura-s
Sonia with John Montz, manager of Bank of Books in Ventura, California

Bank of Books in Ventura, California, is a lovely indie bookstore for book lovers of all genres. It’s the kind of store that attracts those who love to browse and dig into stories. It’s also the kind of store that attracts famous people, such as Sir Anthony Hopkins, according to John Montz, the manager.

Last weekend, during my book event at Bank of Books, John told me an interesting story.

Academy Award winner, Gregory Peck,  famous actor in the movie To Kill a Mockingbird, had a book signing at Bank of Books. They advertised his event in all the local newspapers, and set a table inside the store for him to sign his book. Not one person showed up. Not one.

The manager decided to have him stand outside the store, and when people recognized him, they finally formed a line which stretched down Main Street.

I enjoy meeting new people.
I enjoy meeting new people.

So knowing that even famous people don’t always draw a crowd, despite publicity, should make indie authors feel better when they only draw a small number of “fans” to their book events.

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In my opinion, you always meet one person who makes the whole event worthwhile, and this time, I met a great lady who purchased my book, and we exchanged business cards. The secret is to be “gutsy” and go up to people and chat.

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Have you had a book signing where no one came? Have you been to many book signings yourself?

Submit your “My Gutsy Story.”

I am collecting new “My Gutsy Story” submissions for 2013.  NOW is the time to submit your own “My Gutsy Story” and get published in our Anthology. Please contact sonia@soniamarsh.com for details.

To submit your own, “My Gutsy Story” you can find all the information, and our sponsors on the “My Gutsy Story” contest page. (VIDEO) Submission guidelines here.

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