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Join the “My Gutsy Story” contest.

October 24, 2011 by Sonia Marsh

 

After the huge success of our first My Gutsy Story® Anthology: True Stories of Love, Courage and Adventure From Around the World  , we’re now accepting submissions for our second Anthology.

Every Monday we feature a My Gutsy Story®, and at the end of each month we ask our readers to vote for their favorite My Gutsy Story®.  Audience participation, comments and votes are encouraged.

Submissions for My Gutsy Story®:

A story about something that either:

  • Changed you.
  • Changed the way you think about something.
  • Made your life take a different direction.

What we’re looking for:

  • A well-written story
  • Something gutsy
  • Inspirational
  • Unique
  • Motivational
  • Engaging
  • Humor

Submission Guidelines:

  • The story should be no more than 1,000 words.
  • 100 word bio with your website.

How to submit:

  • Please e-mail Sonia@soniamarsh.com

How we select the best story:

  • Readers vote each month for their favorite story of the month.

What do you get from sharing My Gutsy Story®?

  • Links to your books, website or blog.
  • An opportunity to share your work with new readers.
  • More readers
  • More comments, Tweets, FaceBook comments, fame.
  • One winner per month gets a prize from one of our monthly sponsors.

We launched our first My Gutsy Story® Anthology: True Stories of Love, Courage and Adventure From Around the World on September 26th, 2013, at the Regency South Coast Village, Santa Ana, California, with “gutsy Traveler” and keynote speaker, Marybeth Bond, and a panel of indie authors, including: Linda Joy Myers, Jason Matthews, Sonia Marsh and Marla Miller as our moderator. You can see the photos and learn more about our event here.

 Would you like to sponsor the contest? If so, please contact us.

 

 

I can only be me.

October 20, 2011 by Sonia Marsh

” Did you ever see an unhappy horse? Did you ever see a bird that has the blues? One reason why birds and horses are not unhappy is because they are not trying to impress other birds and horses.” Dale Carnegie

It’s Wednesday night and I’m cooking dinner wondering, “What the hell am I going to post tomorrow?” (I apologize, I do swear once in a while.)

Does this happen to you or are you so organized that all your posts are prepared weeks or months ahead of time?

Please don’t answer if you’re one of those because you’ll only make me feel like a loser. OK, I admit, I’ll feel happy for you and perhaps a smidgen of envy will creep in wishing that I could be more like you.

So while I stir the mushrooms, let me take a moment to think about what to write next.

I have a confession to make. I’m still working on the rewrite of my travel memoir. I know, I know, why is it taking me so long to finish my travel memoir?

Do you want to know the real reason?

Here it is. “I finally listened to agents, editors, a memoir teacher I had three years ago, and someone important: my husband.”

“Start with the action in Belize,”

“Sonia, too much fluff in the beginning, get to Belize faster.”

It has taken several years for me to hear them, and as I mentioned in the truth about writing a book, publishers are looking for unique stories.

Unless you’re a celebrity, it’s highly unlikely that an editor will be interested in publishing your manuscript if it relates to any of the following problems:

  • raising a difficult teenager
  • an alcohol problem
  • an autistic child
  • you’re a cancer survivor
  • you suffered abuse as a child
  • you left your abusive husband

At least that’s what I’ve heard over and over again. I’m sorry, it sucks, but that’s a fact today and I realize it. That’s why I’m trying very hard to become a celebrity. (Please don’t laugh.)

OK, so here’s something else I want to talk about. I’m very confused about the way I was taught to write in Europe, and the American way. I used to say, “I learnt this,” and it’s taken me almost twenty years to realize that in the U.S. it’s, “ I learned this.”

I also have comma problems. I truly believe the British use more commas than the Americans. At this point I’m so confused, I add a comma just to be on the safe side.

Let’s not get distracted here; I know you care more about other things than my grammar issues. I would like to find out a few things about you.

  •  Do you find it a challenge to stick to the theme of your blog?
  • Are there times when you’d like to write whatever, just like I am today?
  • Once you hit publish, do you get nervous what readers will think of your post or should I say you?
  • Do you wake up at 2 a.m., in a sweat (ladies you know what I mean) and panic because you don’t have a topic to write about, and you work yourself into a tizzy because you realize your book is more important than your blog, so you start worrying about your kids, your marriage, your life, and global warming? Then by 3 a.m., you finally relax enough to sleep until you decide to get up and write your post before you forget what you wanted to write about.

There are days when we think we’re on a stage, performing for an audience, and in a way being a writer/blogger is the same. Even if we think we wrote a brilliant post, article or book, we can’t be happy until we know what our audience thinks of our “performance.”  Of course we can judge by the number of comments, Tweets and reviews we receive, however, this shouldn’t matter as much as what we think of our self.

Photo credit above

The Naked Chef Cares About What You Eat.

October 17, 2011 by Sonia Marsh

Jamie Oliver says:

“The more we care about what we eat, the better for us, our families and the country.”

Who is Jamie Oliver anyway? Well, if you like food and enjoy cooking shows, you’ll know that he’s a phenomenon in the world of food. Jamie is  “one of Britain’s most famous exports,” and you may have heard of the television series The Naked Chef (BBC), a huge success around the world.

Jamie is one of those Gutsy people who followed his passion at a young age. If you’ve watched him on TV, you can’t help but be charmed by his enthusiasm for food, cooking, and educating all of us, especially children about the importance of eating healthy.

“My biggest passion has been, and remains, food education.”

From what I’ve read about Jamie, he has a very close relationship with his parents and I admire them for letting him follow his passion at a young age. Jamie quit school at 16 and started his training at Westminster Catering College. He has inspired people to spend more time enjoying being in the kitchen, and even start growing their own food.

“I was lucky enough to be brought up by parents who placed a lot of importance on traditional values and sharing those life skills.”

Jamie Oliver and his family

Jamie believes in the importance of having family dinners and I completely agree with him. He says he’s shocked by how many families don’t even have a dinner table. He wants to change this and claims that:

“Carving out the time at least once a week to cook a meal and sit down around the table with your family has endless benefits, even in modern-day life.”

It’s a wonderful opportunity to share and I admit that our meals around a dinner table when my sons were all home, especially when we lived in Belize, and didn’t have TV, resulted in some wonderful memories.

“Being knowledgeable about where food comes from and how it affects your body is one of the most important life skills we can teach them.”

During his trips around the world, Jamie says there are many people who have no clue where their food comes from. I remember when he spoke to some children at a school in New York who had no idea that french fries came from a potato, and who didn’t know what an apple or a potato looked like.

“With so many parents working today, it’s easy to grab ready-made pre-packaged meals that are not good for our bodies, nutritionally.”

That’s why Jamie is on a mission to ensure that every 16-year-old knows about food and can turn a pile of ingredients into a delicious meal. Jamie is optimistic however, and claims there is a growth in real foodies, both young and old, who shop at farmers’ markets and are passionate about fresh ingredients. There are some positive changes in Britain, where  McDonald’s is only selling free-range eggs and organic milk in an effort to support British producers. I did a Google search on McDonald’s in the U.S, and whether they also serve organic eggs and milk, and nothing popped up. Jamie says:

“These companies aren’t necessarily doing these things in other countries, they’re doing them here, for us – because British consumers have become more educated and are demanding it.”

Imagine my excitement to see Jamie mention the importance of ” an individual or a family that have the guts to travel halfway round the world, set up a new life and make a go of it.”

So what does this have to do with food?

“Everything.”

Everything we eat today can be traced back in history, either through invasion, exploration, colonization and immigration.

I remember reading that even Queen Elizabeth, when she visited Belize, tasted Gibnut and thought it tasted just like chicken.

Baby Gibnut

 Photo credit

The whole concept of a pie originated in Egypt and was brought to us by the Romans via the Greeks. Burgers come from America via Germany through Russia.

Do you cook from scratch? Do you enjoy cooking or do you buy mostly pre-packaged food? What about organic products? 

What is your true calling? How do you find it?

October 13, 2011 by Sonia Marsh

Many of us go through life without ever questioning:

  • What was I put  on Earth to do?
  • What things tap into my strongest strengths and my deepest loves?
  • What things let me be the most “me” I can be?
  • What is my true calling?

Some people find their true calling at a young age, and others never really seem to. Why is that?

Here are three questions to help you find your true calling. I found them in the November 2011 issue of the Oprah magazine.  Try to answer as truthfully as possible the following:

  1. How does what you’re doing make you feel? (Does it feel right to you? Does it stimulate you?)
  2. Does it have a positive impact on others? (Does your energy and enthusiasm connect with others when shared?)
  3. Does it turn up the volume and increase the vibration of your life? (Whenever you pursue what you’re meant to be you have a certain vitality, and when others see this, they’ll be inspired too.)

If you’re not sure how to discover your passion, here’s another helpful exercise you may want to try.  4-Step Guide to Discovering Who You’re Meant to be.

  1. Brainstorm
  2. Take stock of your strengths
  3. Tap your motivation
  4. Go

Kristine Flanigan and Ethan Bartlett, two young fashion designers from FIDM- (Fashion Institute of Design and Merchandising) found their calling at a young age. I interviewed them last Friday at a Fashion Show (see video of Kristine below) at the Irvine Spectrum, sponsored by StyleWeek OC and the Cadillac Contemporary Design.

 Nick Verreos, was the  host and former Project Runway contestant, and he also found his passion for fashion design at the young age of five. More photos of the show and the designers’ outfits made from Cadillac car parts.

Click here to see the fashion designers and their outfits of the 2011 Cadillac Contemporary Design contest.

I have several passions, writing, networking, traveling, weight lifting, “talking”, learning.

As far as my true calling, I’m not 100% sure yet. I can feel I’m getting there, and somehow I’m drawn to teaching and working with people in less developed parts of the world.

What about you? Have you discovered your true calling in life? Please share your thoughts.

My blog was hacked. Why me?

October 10, 2011 by Sonia Marsh

 

My website was hacked last Friday and I felt sick to my stomach. It felt like an intruder entered my home, stole  my belongings and left me naked and vulnerable.

How could this happen to me? I’m not a corporation or a business selling products; no I’m Sonia Marsh, author and blogger who enjoys a community of people from around the world.

So here’s what happened. (I am not a professional website designer or coder who can offer technical advice.)

I logged onto my hosted WordPress website and noticed that the photograph on the most recent post on the landing page had disappeared. A black dot had replaced the photo. The photo was still on the post, so why wasn’t it being “pulled” onto the home page? (My website designer and coder had written code to do this automatically.)  I experimented uploading another photo hoping  this might be the solution. After deleting photos from my Gallery, and uploading them directly into my post, nothing worked. Within an hour or so, all photos on my home page were replaced by small black dots. I felt like my blog was slowly crumbling in front of my eyes just like the frightening photos of the Twin Towers on 9/11.

I checked all three of my domain names and my website never popped up. The directory no longer had an index file. I no longer existed on the web. As I mourned the death of my website with hundreds of posts, photos and comments gone forever, my immediate reaction was the most common one: panic, which can also be the most dangerous one. Douglas Karr explains in his article “WordPress Hacked? Ten Steps to Repair Your Blog,”

  • “Stay Calm! Don’t start deleting things and installing all kinds of crap that promises to clean your installation up. You don’t know who wrote it and whether or not it’s simply adding more malicious crap to your blog. Take a deep breath, lookup this blog post, and slowly and deliberately go down the checklist.”
  • Call your web-hosting company, if you use one, and ask them to look into it.
  • Act fast. Get immediate professional help if you don’t know how to fix yourself.

I went from panic, to mad to Gutsy, and said, “That damn HACKER is not going to get away with this. I’m not giving up after all these years of blogging, I have to get it back.”

I e-mailed my web-designer who got back to me right away and said, “Sonia, you’ve been hacked. Call your web-hosting company immediately and find out what’s going on.”

She is not a coder but put me in touch with a fantastic guy who informed me the problem lies with a script called: timthumb.php. That script had a ‘hole’ in it that would let people take over WordPress sites.

From there it infected almost every other file in WordPress, the plugins and the theme.
In order to reduce your risk here are a 5 steps to take if you use WordPress:
  1. Keep your themes and plugins updated – #1 cause of malware infections and hacks independent of any platform!
  2. Only download from reputable sources (WordPress.org).
  3. Only use plugins and themes that are being actively developed and have good, trusted reviews. Do your homework
  4. Keep an eye on WordPress security news to see if there are any issues with the plugins or themes you are using.
  5. Don’t just disable, remove any software that you’re not actively using. Just because it’s not active doesn’t mean it’s not vulnerable
I lost two pounds on Friday from nerves and not eating and had an event to attend in the evening. Fortunately, when I returned, Loren, the tech guy, left me this message.
“I pretty sure I’ve got it clean
I had to completely re-install WordPress
Delete all plugins
Re-install all plugins
clean every theme file.”

I clicked on my website: soniamarsh.com and I was back online. I celebrated with a glass of wine, and deleted a couple of plugins I don’t use. I hope this never happens to you, or to me again.

Don’t forget to change your passwords frequently.

Have you been hacked before? How did you react?

 

Above Photo Daniel Conway

 

 

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