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“My New Life” Chapter One

January 2, 2015 by Sonia Marsh 18 Comments

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I am turning a new chapter in my life prompted by my divorce after a 28-year marriage.

Instead of feeling “sorry” for myself, I’ve opted to view this as an opportunity to explore new avenues and adventures. As I often say to others:

“There are always options in life. View setbacks as opportunities to do something new and don’t be afraid to take a risk.”

Baby boomer women are taking charge of their life and according to: New York Times “Divorce After 50”

“So much for “till death do us part.” For the first time, more Americans 50 and older are divorced than widowed, and the numbers are growing as baby boomers live longer. Sociologists call them gray divorcees.” 

 SONIA’s 2015 Gutsy Adventure:

  •  Cert-TESOL certificate in London in May 2015, a one-month course. This is the “Teaching of English to Speakers of Other Languages,” course which is respected and recognized globally by language schools. I have always wanted a qualification I can use anywhere in the world, and thanks to  Rebecca Hall, who writes about “Life Beyond Borders” blog, I was guided to this specific course. Watch my interview with Beccy here. Another interview with her on January 24th, 9 a.m.
  • I signed up for the Peace Corps, and have followed numerous PC social gatherings during the past year.
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Julia Caipizzi, Orange County Peace Corps Recruiter, Sonia and Theresa Elders (RPCV)

 

  • PEACE CORPS: I am currently serving as a Peace Corps Volunteer in Lesotho, a tiny land-locked country in southern Africa.The good news is that the PC wants to recruit more people over 50, so if you’re looking for another adventure, here are some people over 50 serving.
  • MY TIME NOT SOCIAL MEDIA’S TIME: I’m going to do things according to “my time,” not according to social media expectations. So what if I don’t post exactly at the same time each week. Will I get punished by Google, SEO, Twitter, FB, etc.
  • “GUTSY” INTERVIEWS: I shall keep interviewing “Gutsy” people, and my first interview in 2015, is the talented, Rebecca Hall. Click here to join this live awesome interview on Saturday, January 24th, at 9 a.m. PST. Please tune in and listen to my friend who lives in Athens, Greece. We shall discuss:
    • Her new site, “Life Beyond Borders” originally called Leaving Cairo, and why she changed it.
    • What Beccy does, her travel work (especially Rough Guides), why she started a blog, and what she hopes to achieve from her blog in 2015
  • MY GUTSY STORY® ANTHOLOGY: I submitted the “My Gutsy Story®” Anthology for another Award and plan to attend the IBPA (Independent Book Publishers Association) conference in Austin, TX, April 10-11th, 2015. Hopefully all 46 authors who contributed their story, will win this Award.
  •  WORK ABROAD: I plan to volunteer in Spain again in May-June 2015, with Vaughan Volunteers, speaking English to Spanish business people for one week. Last year I was in Torrecaballeros, (see my post here.) This time I shall be in a 13th Century village called, Pedraza.  I also hope to work either with the Peace Corps, or as a teacher of English, abroad in 2015.
  • PUBLISH 3rd MY GUTSY STORY® ANTHOLOGY IN 2015. Please submit your stories for our next Anthology. It’s FREE on GUTSY LIVING® site, and only $79, to be considered for publication in our 2015 Anthology.
  • CONTINUE HELPING AUTHORS PROMOTE THEIR BOOKS. See what I can do for you HERE.

(WE NEED MORE STORIES, SO HERE’S YOUR CHANCE TO GET PUBLISHED IN THE AWARD-WINNING ANTHOLOGY.)

 

HAPPY NEW YEAR with fresh flowers from Amsterdam market where I was on December 30th, 2014
HAPPY NEW YEAR with fresh flowers from Amsterdam market where I was on December 30th, 2014

Submission guidelines here

Every Monday, we shall feature a short story on “Gutsy Living”  about something Gutsy you have done in your life that either:

  • Changed you.
  • Changed the way you think about something.
  • Made your life take a different direction.

You can check out all the details on the Join the “My Gutsy Story” contest page.

Each month, the winner gets to pick one prize.

Here is the link explaining what it’s about and what we do for you.

It’s FREE to have your story published on Gutsy Living® website and if you would like to be published in our 2015 (award-winning Anthology), there is a fee of only $79, to cover professional editing, cover design, and formatting.

 

What Mom Taught Me About Life

December 15, 2014 by Sonia Marsh 12 Comments

 

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“Simple Splendor”

“My Gutsy Story®”- Lola  Di Giulio  De Maci

 

I could always tell it was pie-baking day when I came home from school. The container of cinnamon was sitting on the kitchen counter alongside the sugar bowl. Mom was getting ready to make apple pie. That meant cinnamon rolls made from leftover pie dough. The sweet smell of cinnamon tickled my nose. I could hardly wait.

The recipe called for flour, shortening, salt, plus five spoonfuls of cold water. “You have to use cold water,” Mom would insist. “That’s the secret to making the best crust.” She took out her cookbook.

“Here’s the recipe,” she said, her eyes twinkling. “Cinnamon Pinwheels.” She handed me the cookbook as if she were presenting me with the secret as to what makes the Golden Gate Bridge golden. I accepted the gift, opening the book with reverential awe.

But it wasn’t a “real” recipe at all – just a pinch of this and a handful of that.

“Was this your mother’s recipe?” I asked Mom. The pages were worn with splotches of sugar and flour.

“Yes,” Mom nodded. “And my mother got it from her mother. Your grandmother, Ruth, baked just about every day: pies, cakes, cookies. But mostly bread. There was always a fresh loaf of bread on the table. ‘The staff of life,’ she would say.”

At that moment I knew I wanted to be just like my mom and grandma. When I grew up, I wanted to feed my family “the staff of life.” I was determined to learn that magic formula that my mother, grandmother and great-grandmother had perfected.

With the rolls piping hot from the oven, Mom would pour herself a cup of coffee, and I would get myself a glass of milk. Sitting side by side on the sofa, we celebrated the swirly treat. Just my mom and me. This was our special time. Bite by bite, I would make my way through the cinnamon roll to the “luscious lump” of dough, sugar, and cinnamon in the center – my favorite part.

“Can you make these pinwheels again tomorrow?” I would ask Mom. I couldn’t wait for the next pie-baking day.

And then one day Mom couldn’t remember some of the ingredients that went into making the rolls. I didn’t know a lot about Alzheimer’s, but I did know that I wanted to help her remember – anything. Mom was now living in a retirement home, and I would visit her for hours. Sometimes we talked. Sometimes we didn’t. It wasn’t easy watching my mother disappear into another world. And yet, it was an honor to sit with her…and dream.

Store-bought cinnamon rolls sat silently on the kitchen counter in her new home, waiting to be opened. I would take out two pretty plates from the cupboard and place a cinnamon roll on each. Then I would grab her big, caramel-colored mug with the word “Mom” etched on it in bold, curvy letters, fill it with coffee, and hand it to her. The mug with the brightly-colored Christmas tree painted on it was for me. No matter what time of the year it was, I loved the feeling of Christmas in my hands. It seemed to offer so much promise.

“Mom, I want you to make cinnamon pinwheels for me,” I would say kiddingly, taking her hand. “Just the way you used to make them. I loved them more than anything in the world.” And she would laugh. And I would laugh. I knew this was an impossible request – and maybe she did too – but that wasn’t the point. Maybe I wanted to remember for the both of us.

Mom’s been gone for eight Septembers now. She lived to be ninety-three years old. I think about Mom’s final days and how her illness stole her away from us. There were times I cried because I wanted my mother back. And then I would quickly replace those unimaginable thoughts with the many good times we had together. Shared memories. Mom could take something as ordinary and unpretentious as a cinnamon roll and celebrate it.

Thanks to my mom I have learned to see and celebrate the simple, unbridled joys of everyday living. A noisy squawk jay on my patio. A card from a friend in my mailbox. A cinnamon roll on a pretty plate. I have come to know and appreciate the beauty and splendor the world has to offer me.

And I am grateful. Very grateful.

 

Lola Di Giulio De Maci is a retired teacher whose stories appear in several editions of Chicken Soup for the Soul, Ultimate Series, Tending Your Inner Garden, Reminisce, various newspapers including the Los Angeles Times, and children’s books and magazines. She enjoys crossword puzzles, journaling, handwritten notes/letters, her children, and new beginnings. Lola earned a Master of Arts in education and English and continues writing from her loft overlooking the San Bernardino Mountains. Contact her at: LDeMaci@aol.com.

SONIA MARSH SAYS: Lola, what a beautiful story of love and gratitude for the small things in life that bring us pleasure. Something to remember during this busy holiday season.


 

View of Paris from L'Arc de Triomphe

I am leaving for London, Copenhagen, Paris and Amsterdam for the holidays. I shall post photos and news about my trip, so I hope you enjoy following me on my trip.

In the meantime, please submit your own  “My Gutsy Story®” for publication in the 2015 Anthology.

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WomanSage Helps Women in Life Transitions Become Gutsy

December 11, 2014 by Sonia Marsh Leave a Comment

The WowanSage  "Women  in Life Transitions" Program
The WowanSage “Women in Life Transitions” Program

I am a woman going through a life transition. My story is about divorce, and re-inventing a new “Gutsy” life for myself at age 57.

Starting next year, my blog shall take on a fresh focus. Watch out for the upcoming news in January 2015.

I  have been lucky to attend a group called “Women in Life Transitions” which started on September 18th, sponsored by WomanSage.

All 15 of us are going through various stages in life from:

  • Grief (death of a spouse or child)
  • Divorce
  • Struggling with a spouse suffering from depression or alcoholism
  • Loss of a job and lack of financial support 
  • Stay-at-home mom who feels stuck
  • Relationship problems, mental abuse
  • Issues with money and clinical depression
  • Nervous breakdowns

During a 3.5 month period we received a jumpstart in the following areas of our life:

1) Personal issues through our life coach, Donna Friess (3 sessions)

2). Career Coaching through the wonderful WHW (Women Helping Women) non-profit which offers monthly classes on:

  • Resume building
  • LinkedIn seminars
  • Job offers
  • Skilled volunteers to help with dressing professionally, and offering free outfits
  • Mock Interviews
  • Excel and computer classes.

3). Financial coaching with certified financial planners.

WHW (Women Helping Women) helped us with our wardrobes and professional clothing as well as make-up lessons fro the WomanSage team and finally professional photography through Julie Debolt Price. I can’t wait to share my photo, which I might use as my new author photo.

Julie is truly gifted at giving direction so you feel confident that your professional photo for LinkedIn or whatever you use it for will look great.

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Christine Steele, who was in charge of organizing the program, Sonia, and Donna Friess, our wonderful coach.

This program helped me in every respect:

  • Getting financial, business and life coaching help
  • Boosting my confidence
  • Inspiring other women to become “gutsy.’
  • Making new friends

If you live in Orange County and need help because you’re going through a major life transition, consider contacting the WomanSage Life Transition Program for help.

This was a FREE program and I am so grateful for all the help I received and the new friends I made over this 3 month period.

 

 

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Attention Boomers! Join the Ultimate Guide Podcast with Kalynn Amadio

December 4, 2014 by Sonia Marsh Leave a Comment

Kalynn Amadio, host of "The Boomer's Ultimate Guide."
Kalynn Amadio

Kalynn Amadio, host of  Boomer’s Ultimate Guide podcast, interviews baby boomers about what they do, and their challenges. She started the show 2 months ago, and already has 90,000 downloads.

I shall be on her show today, however, my interview will  not air until January, 2015. I shall send a link when it’s up on the schedule.

As a baby boomer, I look forward to answering her questions below on “The Boomer’s Ultimate Guide Podcast.”

It won’t be a live broadcast, however you will be able to listen to it on Kalynn’s website.

The interviews are done via Skype and here is the link to view them.  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCjsRberY5XLAMnLzyz7IoDA

The questions we shall cover are:

  1. Who I am, and what I do?
  2. How is working with Boomers different?
  3. What are my top three tips for baby boomers regarding your topic?
  4. What are the biggest challenges/concerns I see Boomers experience regarding my topic?
  5. What would I tell a Boomer to do right now, today, to get started making changes?
  6. What is the best way for listeners to connect with me?
  7. I shall share an inspirational quote or very brief story to leave you with.

I hope you listen when I have the link, and in the meantime, you may want to contact Kalynn or her production manager, Kelly St. Clair.

I look forward to my interview. Here are the links for Kalynn on Facebook.

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2). Has Someone Inspired You to Take a Risk and be Gutsy?

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From Morbid Obesity to Taking Charge of My Life

December 1, 2014 by Sonia Marsh Leave a Comment

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From Morbid Obesity to Taking Charge of My Life

“My Gutsy Story®” by Kenn Ashcraft

 

It’s Thursday night and I’m on the red eye flight back to Kansas City from Beverly Hills. My legs felt unusually hot to the touch, especially since it was in the dead of winter. I made a trip to the lavatory and noticed they were reddened as if I had been sunbathing on the California beach.  I straightened my clothes and returned to my seat without giving them or the pain they created another thought.

The next afternoon, an associate and I were returning from lunch when I fell to the floor as we entered our offices. “What in the hell, Kenn? Are you alright?” Bill asked.

“Damned if I know. Help me up,” I snapped back. Pulling me up, the man let go and I fell back to the floor. I couldn’t move—the pain was too intense. “Bill, I can’t stand,” I shouted.  With the receptionist, the two of them carried me out to my car. Bill jumped into the driver’s seat and off we sped to the nearby hospital.

Once in the emergency room, Bill explained what happened. I was sitting in the chair, doubled in pain and unable to talk. He gave the nurse my personal details. Ignoring him, she barked for one of the ER doctors to my side. “What’s going on, sir? Where do you hurt?” the woman asked.

“My legs are on fire and they feel like shards of glass are ripping through my skin. Give me something for the pain—please,” I begged the woman.

“Hello, I’m Dr. Jacobson. What happened?” he asked. If he was the doctor, I must have been his grandpa. He didn’t look a day over eighteen and I was forty-one.

“Hell if I know. I got home last night from LA and my legs were on fire. The pain wasn’t this bad.” The doctor wheeled me into a room, explained that he was ordering a set of x-rays and some lab tests. He began pulling on my legs in different directions. I wanted to strangle the man.  “Just fix my damn legs and make the pain go away,” I yelled.

The next minute I was in a hospital room. Janet, my wife, was sitting in the chair beside me and Alex, my son, was playing video games.

“Hello Mr. Ashcraft,” an older gentleman dressed in scrubs said as he entered my room. “I’m Dr. Thomsen and I’ll review the results of your tests.”

“Great, when can I get out of here? Make the pain stop,” I demanded. With his calm demeanor, the doctor explained that I had an attack of cellulitis and adding insult to injury, I also had gout.

“It’s not quite that simple. For the gout, I’ll drain your legs of fluid. That should relieve the pain—the ‘shards of glass’ feeling you described and for the redness and swollenness of your legs—that’s the cellulitis. We can treat that.”

“Well then, let’s do it and I can be on my way,” I said in my usual confident, boastful voice. I was ready to get home.

“Not so fast, Mr. Ashcraft. These are temporary fixes. You’ll need to schedule an appointment so we can further evaluate your needs. This could be a recurring problem,” the doctor replied.

“If the pain is going to be this bad, just cut off my legs and be done with it,” I sneered.

“Don’t laugh, sir. That is often reality,” Dr. Thomsen retorted back.

Fifteen years later I had become morbidly obese and was having the same issues with my legs—only worse. I couldn’t walk for more than twenty feet without being winded. I weighed over four hundred and fifty pounds and walked with a cane, avoided steps of any kind and ate pain killers to get through the day.

Kenn Ashcraft before photo
Kenn Ashcraft before photo

The end came quick. Dr. Brown, my family doctor, had suggested a complete physical to get to the bottom of the pain issue. Yes, obesity was a factor but she believed there was something more seriously involved.

“Kenn, to be frank, I am diagnosing you with lymphedema and insist that you apply for disability,” she said. “I’m also ordering some special physical therapy and treatment.”

“What is lymphedema?” I asked.

“You have a compromised lymphatic system; your body cannot rid itself of the unnecessary lymph fluids. That creates another set of problems… “, she continued.

“But, Doctor Brown; I need to work,” I cried.

“If you don’t quit work and get treatment Kenn, you could end up bed-ridden or worse; you could be dead.”

At the insistence of her, my lawyer and my wife, I left the work force involuntarily and applied for disability. It must have been divinely planned because five months to the date of my application, I received my first disability check.

After a few years of therapy and self-denial; I pursued a new direction. I consulted with a nationally recognized bariatric surgeon in our area and opted to have weight loss surgery. That was two years ago and I have lost two hundred pounds and am on my way to losing an additional eighty. This will put me at my ideal body weight of one hundred and eighty. As for the lymphedema, it’s always going to be with me but it’s more controlled, due in part from the weight loss and partly because of my attitude change. My confidence has returned and I am determined not to let it rule my life.

I am involved in a program that will not only strengthen my entire body but will provide me the necessary tools to take me through to my next journey. In late 2015, I plan to bicycle my way through all one hundred and five counties in Kansas before returning home 4,000 miles later. Along the way, I will hold public seminars at every hospital and talk about lymphedema—what it is and what can be done and weight loss surgery and how it can be an effective tool in battling this debilitating condition.

KENN ASHCRAFT: My name is Kenn Ashcraft; however I’m known as “Kenn Kann”, because if anyone can, Kenn Kann. I live in suburban Johnson County in the Kansas City area and if you have doubts—there are plenty of hills & trees in Kansas—I live amidst all of them. I was retired to medical disability early because of being diagnosed with lymphedema and morbid obesity. I choose to write about living with these issues.

Facebook: “Kenn Kann”

Facebook Page: “A Spin through the Sunflower Patch.”

SONIA MARSH SAYS: I look forward to reading about the next chapter of your life where you ride your bike and hold public seminars at every hospital. This will inspire others who are going through a difficult period and need a boost from someone who overcame his health issues.

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Send us a 500 word max. story by December 13th (e-mail: Sonia@soniaMarsh.com)

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2). Has Someone Inspired You to Take a Risk and be Gutsy?

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