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Does it Take Guts to Leave a Marriage?

February 27, 2015 by Sonia Marsh 8 Comments

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I could not resist the blue/turquoise background on this photo. Just noticed a parasailer to the right of the arrow. Is that me flying?

 

I was talking to Donna, an author and a life coach, about ideas for my next blog post.

Donna knows my theme is “Gutsy Living” and she texted me,

“It takes guts to leave a marriage… Did u write on that?”

My answer is “No,” and although I agree there are many women who stay stuck in a marriage because it’s easier to do that, than to get unstuck, I still don’t view my own situation as gutsy.

Now what I’m planning for the rest of my life, I would call Gutsy, in the sense that I am not one of those women who likes to stay in my house, and certainly don’t thrive on the same routine. Besides, I no longer own a house, nor do I have a home to celebrate the holidays with my three sons. (That part I do regret.)

My life right now is a period of major transition. It has been quite liberating to rid myself of possessions, take charge of my own finances, get organized, and move forward with my next adventure.

Apart from my clothes, photos and files, all I own is the furniture below, and my small blue Kia Rio. Quite surprising that at age 57, I’m back to what I owned as a 25-year-old, and the strange thing is I now feel free to pack up and move to another country.

My only possessions are: the inspirational painting that led to my love of tropical islands, two antique chairs I embroidered with my mother in Denmark when I was fifteen years old, and my parents’ Chinese chest, which has followed me since 1983.

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Red embroidered armchair. I have two of those, and my favorite Barton painting and frame
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I inherited my parents’ Chinese chest and the paintings behind are the ones I painted. Always turquoise!

I  applied and was rejected by the Peace Corps, but that didn’t stop me from changing my resume, and reapplying. I’m thrilled to announce that I finally had my 2-hour interview and shall keep you posted on what happens with that.

As a back-up, I decided to get a (TESOL) certificate, Teachers of English to Speakers of Other Languages, an intense 4-week course, supposedly with no breaks on weekends. The problem is I have at least six people whom I’d like to visit in the UK, including author Ian Mathie,  and my French/British blogger friend Muriel Demarcus, who wrote a  My Gutsy Story® published in the Anthologies, and other friends from my days studying in the UK.

So for me, the answer has been, and shall always remain, to keep busy with plans and projects, and to keep networking, as you never know what the future holds. When you’re open to change, there are so many possibilities.

  • Don’t focus on the “what if’s” of your divorce, but on the “what if’s of your life.”

Please share anything you wish to in the comments section below, especially if you have gone through a divorce, or a separation.

Filed Under: Inspirational, motivational, People Tagged With: divorce

Comments

  1. maria says

    February 27, 2015 at 7:16 pm

    U are gutsy re divorce.

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    • Sonia Marsh says

      February 27, 2015 at 10:38 pm

      Thanks Maria.
      Sonia Marsh recently posted..Does it Take Guts to Leave a Marriage?My Profile

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  2. Linda Luke says

    February 27, 2015 at 10:02 pm

    Yes! It takes guts to follow your heart and choose your own way. You are an inspiration to many of us who are less adventurous. We sit on our dreams and get a little jealous, but because of women like you, we know it is possible to take action when we are ready.

    Light to your journeys, wherever they take you.
    Linda Luke recently posted..How to Cultivate Inner PeaceMy Profile

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    • Sonia Marsh says

      February 27, 2015 at 10:42 pm

      Linda,

      Thank you for your comment and I do hope this may help other women going through the same, to take charge of their own lives, and follow their passion. I feel this is the right time for me to do something for myself, that can also benefit others.
      Sonia Marsh recently posted..Does it Take Guts to Leave a Marriage?My Profile

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  3. ladyfi says

    February 27, 2015 at 10:40 pm

    Good luck with your TESOL! It’s a lot of work, but fun!

    Wishing you much light and wind under your sails in your continuing adventure.
    ladyfi recently posted..SunburstMy Profile

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    • Sonia Marsh says

      February 27, 2015 at 10:42 pm

      Fiona,

      Did you take the TESOL? I know it’s a ton of studying.
      Sonia Marsh recently posted..Does it Take Guts to Leave a Marriage?My Profile

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  4. Flora Morris Brown says

    March 1, 2015 at 1:59 am

    Sonia,

    I’m proud of you for trusting and valuing yourself enough to start a new direction in your life.

    The road will open for you with each step you take. Your progress enhances your life and ours.

    Thanks for being so transparent and encouraging.
    Flora Morris Brown recently posted..Top Nuggets of Advice for Self-Published Authors, February 23-27, 2015My Profile

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  5. Penelope James says

    March 1, 2015 at 4:52 pm

    Hi Sonia, Congrats on treating the latest big changes/transitions in your life as opportunities to make a new start. I know from personal experience how it is not easy to turn your whole life around at 57, but it seems like you are viewing this as an exciting new adventure. Great idea to get the TESOL certificate. It will open doors for you all over the world.
    Penelope James recently posted..WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YESTERDAY’S HOME WAS A MANSION AND NOW IT’S ONE ROOM?My Profile

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