motivational Archives - Sonia Marsh

Dining for Women Helps Reduce Poverty Among Girls in the Developing World

July 29, 2018 by Sonia Marsh 2 Comments

I just joined a group called “Dining for Women,” thanks to my Peace Corps friend, Mary Broude. A new chapter was started in Orange County by Elizabeth Boretz, and the concept is: We get together, dine in, catch up with friends, expand our knowledge of the world, and donate to projects that reduce poverty and promote gender equity.

What exactly is Dining for Women?

Dining for Women is a global giving circle dedicated to transforming lives and eradicating poverty among women and girls in the developing world. Through member education and engagement, as well as the power of collective giving, Dining for Women funds grassroots organizations that empower women and girls and promote gender equity.

My first meeting was last week at Mary’s house and the concept is that members give what they can–usually what they would have spent for a dinner out–towards a grassroots project.

What is an Example of a Dining for Women Featured Project?

In July the featured project was to help the mission of Women’s Global Education Project (WGEP) with eliminating Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) in the Tharaka-Nithi County region of Kenya where (WGEP) works. In that region, 71% of women aged 15-49, have undergone some form of FGM/Cutting. This can cause severe physical as well as psychological effects and this is intensified in rural areas such as Tharaka-Nithi County where local individuals, rather than medical professionals, carry out the procedure in non-sterile settings.

Research shows that girls who undergo genital cutting are more likely to drop out of school since they are considered ready for marriage, typically between ages 9-12. Although Kenya’s 2010 Constitution and 2001 Children’s Act outlawed activities such as FGM/C and early marriage, the practice continues. (WGEP) believes that education, gender equality, and empowerment of women are critical to a society’s development. It’s mission is to provide access to education and develop training programs that empower women and girls to build healthy and productive communities.

How Does Dining for women Work?

One host invites members and other women who would like to learn about the organization and share a meal together. Members learn about that month’s featured grantees through videos, educational documents and presentations, and discuss the project. Funds raised each month go to fund the featured and sustained grantees, as well as support the entire mission of Dining for Women.

Some members such as the long-time established Vienna/Fairfax Chapter (photo of group above) prepare recipes based on the country being featured. For example this July, the host prepared a Kenyan meal. The Fairfax group has 60 women on its roster. Anywhere from 12 – 30 attend the monthly meetings held in members’ homes. They start with socializing, then watch the video from the featured grantee and discuss the project. Afterwards, they enjoy dinner together, often focused on dishes from the grantee’s country.

Would you like to attend a Dining for Women dinner?

If you live in Orange County, and would like to attend a “Dining For Women” event, please e-mail me at: SoniaM@HoldenSafaris.com

Orchestrating Life

March 18, 2017 by Sonia Marsh 12 Comments

I believe in orchestrating life. I don’t wait for things to happen; I try to make them happen. Sometimes I’m all over the place, spreading seeds in many locations hoping they will germinate, and show me the “right” direction for me. Do you do that?

It doesn’t matter whether I’m in Africa, Belize or in the U.S., I take charge, plan ahead, hoping that all will fall into place, and the strange thing about this is that I put in the same amount of passion,no matter where I live in the world.

For example, after I flew from Lesotho to Europe, and then the U.S. to visit family and friends last July, I knew that I wanted to end my Peace Corps service in Lesotho. So I started visualizing how things would proceed, and that gave me the strength to make it happen. I started with the fun part: tracking cheap flights on Google flights via different destinations, to return to Paris, Copenhagen and California, for the Christmas holidays. I then worked my way backwards to July 24th, when I returned to Lesotho, and faced a severe snow storm.

I didn’t want to feel like a failure for quitting early, so I started planning my secondary project so I could feel proud of leaving my mark at the village school. I worked on the grant proposal, and scheduled visits to Maseru, to meet with a Peace Corps staff member to expedite the process. Since I started early, my grant proposal was accepted in record time, and thanks to fundraising and all the donations you sent to my village, we succeeded in raising $5,000 in one week, and completed construction seventeen days later. The timing was perfect; it was scheduled to end by November 30th, and due to the workers’ motivation to get paid right before the Christmas holidays, they were determined to finish on time.

Now, two months after returning to the U.S., I’m in full-swing taking courses in Microsoft Office suite, attending the Association of Fundraising Professional workshops and a grant writing course in April. I’ve had two job offers, and turned them down, for various reasons, however I’m presently working events for the Newport Beach Public Foundation library.

Basically, my calendar is so full, and I choose to make it that way. I like being busy, learning new skills, meeting new people, and orchestrating my life.

Orchestrating life — Working various events at the Newport Beach Library, CA.

I’m Going Crazy Getting Ready For the Peace Corps

September 12, 2015 by Sonia Marsh 13 Comments

AHNU SHOE — The waterproof hiking shoe I ordered from REI to walk to my school in Lesotho.

I’m Going Crazy Getting Ready For the Peace Corps as I only have three weeks left before I board a plane to Philadelphia for “staging.” Staging is the word the Peace Corps uses for “meeting and training” prior to boarding our flight to our host country.

I’m getting nervous, not because of leaving the U.S. for 27-months, but more to do with packing the “right stuff.”
I’m worried about whether I have the right solar panels, the sleeping bag for snow and frost, the right clothes for teaching (not too Amish, yet still keeping my own style,) the right waterproof hiking shoes, which I still want to “look reasonably good.” I’m sorry, but I still like a little bit of style, so I ordered black leather waterproof shoes that REI recommended for rain and snow.

Since the Peace Corps wants us to dress appropriately to teach, I still have my “desire to look slightly stylish in Lesotho.” Can I give up make-up? face cream? perfume? Not sure yet, but ask me in one year, and I might be a completely different woman.

Lesotho is known for it’s blankets, which the Basotho wear. This is what I call “stylish”and I’ve heard that Peace Corps Volunteers, buy local fabric and have dresses made. Here is one beautiful model wearing a Lesotho long jacket made from a Lesotho blanket.

Africa textile | Young South African fashion designer Thabo Makhetha uses 'traditional' Basotho blankets to make high-end coats. — Africa textile | Young South African fashion designer Thabo Makhetha uses ‘traditional’ Basotho blankets to make high-end coats. Click on photo to go to Pinterest.

I just finished my two-week working in a U.S. Kindergarten experience; learning how to manage thirty Kindergarteners from one of the best teachers in Orange County, California. Mrs.Irwin managed her class with positive reinforcement, and I am so impressed with her skills. She managed to get thirty Kindergarteners to listen to her and follow directions on her first day.

I have no idea what it will be like to co-teach in Lesotho, until I’m in the classroom,, but I shall always remember how the Mrs.I. taught me to be positive and always upbeat with the Kindergarteners.

Mrs Irwin — Mrs. Irwin. An amazing Kindergarten teacher who deserves the best teacher of the year Award.

On my last day, the children hugged me, and several cried. “Will you come back Miss Sonia?” they asked. I cannot believe how close I became to these children. I truly loved getting to know them, and I hope to develop a relationship between the children I shall be teaching in Lesotho, and Mrs. Irwin class.

If we can Skype one day, between both classes, that would be awesome! I hope to connect them in some way.

Getting Rid of My “Stuff” For the Peace Corps

September 4, 2015 by Sonia Marsh 12 Comments

IMG_20150903_195112830 — I was considering a storage unit for my Riccar vacuum cleaner

I never thought it would be this difficult to decide what to keep, what to donate, and what to throw away, before I leave for the Peace Corps.

I only have one month before I leave for Lesotho, in southern Africa, and I’ve debated whether or not to rent a storage unit.

The cheapest storage unit I found was a 5’x5′ unit for $1, 950 for 28 months. Do I want to pay that much to store my clothes, shoes, and some files?

My mother’s silverware is going to my cousin’s house tomorrow, but since my cousin doesn’t have room for my files and my clothes, I decided to box everything, and store it with a friend for 3 months. If I’m not back before then–(I don’t plan on that,) my friend can either keep or donate my stuff to charity.

At first I contemplated a storage unit because I’m attached to my (old/expensive) vacuum cleaner, but then I asked myself: “Are you crazy Sonia? Are you really going to get a storage unit because you’re in love with your old vacuum cleaner?”

I have a thing about good quality vacuum cleaners, and spent a fortune on my Riccar, ten years ago, It still works well, and for some reason, this is one of the items I’m having a hard time releasing. (Any psychologists have an analysis of what this means?)

I started looking at all the “love letters and poems,” I received from my ex-husband when we dated, and during our marriage. That is a hard decision for me right now. Should I get rid of them? Part of me is tempted to, as my new life in Lesotho is starting, and I need to move on.

What about my sons’ Kindergarten and school papers? I cannot throw those away, even though they tell me they don’t want them.

Any advice from my friends? Have you had to make decisions like this?

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Differences Between Teaching a Thai and a U.S. Kindergarten

August 27, 2015 by Sonia Marsh 1 Comment

IMG_20150826_122729797 — The wonderful and enthusiastic Kindergarten teacher, Mrs. I.

What a difference between my volunteer teaching in Thailand, and what I’m observing and learning in a U.S. Kindergarten. I’m sure I shall be in for another surprise in Lesotho, southern Africa, where I am co-teaching in January 2016.

Sometimes I wonder how I can use the skills I learned from teaching elementary school in Koh Samui, Thailand, with those in Orange County, California, while I serve in the Peace Corps during my two years in a school in Lesotho.

Each country is so different, especially the cultural differences, the expectations, and the rules and discipline procedures.

In Thailand, the children are so loving. They come up to you for hugs, even in fifth grade, and unlike the U.S., the teachers use a thin bamboo stick for corporal punishment.

In the U.S., the Kindergartners are adorable, but there is no hugging and fewer smiles than I experienced in Thailand.

100_3088 — No chairs in Kindergarten in Thail class where I taught

I feel the “stress” on our children in the U.S., to be high achievers and to obey the rules. In Thailand, the children are often distracted, and I accepted this. We had to get their attention with games; standing up and sitting down and touching their toes, etc. We often shouted and got them to do the same while teaching them to repeat new vocabulary words.

In the U.S. Kindergarten, I observed the expertise of the teacher in how to apply “classroom management” skills which are so important in establishing order and guidelines for children to follow during the school year.

As stated in the well-known book by Harry and Rosemary Wong, The First Days of School, How to be an Effective Teacher.

“Effective teachers MANAGE their classrooms.

Ineffective teachers DISCIPLINE their classrooms.”

Mrs. I. is the Kindergarten teacher, and through positive reinforcement, she manages to control her new Kindergarten class with thirty students. She says things like, “We’re here to grow big brains, who wants to learn to read? Who wants to learn to write stories?”

She thanks her students, by name, who sit still and announces, “I like the way Logan is sitting still,” or “Get up, give yourself a hug and walk quietly to the door.”

She says, “When Mrs.I.is talking, your mouth is not,” and when a child answers a question correctly, she says, “Kiss your brain” and they kiss their hand and tap their head. I just love that.

There are playground rules like counting to 20 when someone is on the slide and your turn is next. Then there are lunch rules, about asking for permission to be excused to play,and rules for entering the classroom. It seems the kids have to follow so many rules in the U.S., but I can see the results of how well-behaved the kids are.

As you can see, everything is neatly arranged, including the box of crayons with each student’s name labelled on the box. You can tell the teacher has spent time getting the classroom organized.

I want to learn new skills on how to get young children to listen, and to do so in a calm manner. During my teaching in Thailand, I felt like I was yelling to get the children’s attention, and although they did keep quiet when I put my right hand up, and my left hand to cover my mouth, most of the teaching was done with shouting the new vocabulary words and getting the kids to repeat, and copy from the board. I did not like teaching this way, but followed the curriculum.

I realize that co-teaching in Lesotho, will be a new adventure that will require being flexible. The best part is I love seeing the differences between cultures, and learning to adapt.

Let’s hope that whatever the method, the kids are always learning.