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“My Gutsy Story” by Sharon Melton Lippincott

August 13, 2012 by Sonia Marsh

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Grabbing Grannie’s Dishes

At one time Grandmother Rene had enough dishes to use a different set each day of the week. My favorite of all of them was her Franciscan Ivy china. “Someday you can have those,” she promised when I was young. I never imagined what that would entail.

The summer we were married, we went to visit my grandparents. I showed the dishes to  my husband and whispered, “Someday those will be mine.” By then I realized they had more than sentimental value. Franciscan had discontinued that pattern after only a few years of production. They had already become a collector’s item.

The year she was 83 I hopped on a plane for a long overdue visit. We had a ball, just the two of us. It was almost like time had stood still and I was ten years old again, visiting by myself in the summer — one of my most treasured memories. Now she taught me how to tat. We looked through trunks of her old clothes, and I took pictures of her wearing her squaw dresses. She made the one with elephants on the bottom tier to wear as a delegate from New Mexico to the Republican National Convention in 1956.

She told me stories about family members and her life and friends from early years. She cooked bizarrely creative meals on the two burners of her electric stove that didn’t have pans fused to them from when she left the heat on high a couple of times. She served this glop on the ivy dishes, which I had all but forgotten.

“I remember these dishes. They’ve always been my favorites!” I exclaimed.

“You can have them someday,” she promised again. With her, one never knew for sure.

Ivy plate

Three years later, I went back. She surprised me. “You can take those dishes home with you if you still want them,” she offered. My heart sank. Checking them through on the airline, especially with two changes en route, seemed like a bad idea. “Maybe I’ll ship them to you,” she said. I knew better than to hold my breath.

They were still in her cupboard when I returned the next year. “Do you want to take those dishes home?” she asked again.

“I just may do that.”

This time I had a plan. By now my sister lived nearby, and I was staying with her. By a quirk of fate, my brother came to town while I was there, and the two of us took off to hang out for awhile.

“Let’s go to Mailboxes for boxes and peanuts, and then go get those dishes,” I said. Eager to see the outcome of this edgy idea, his face glowed with anticipation. When we arrived at Grandmother’s house with two flattened boxes and an enormous bag full of something, her mouth fell open.

“What’s that?” she asked, eyes narrowing in suspicion.

“Stuff to pack those dishes,” I answered, trying to sound breezy while holding my breath. She was famous for changing her mind, always keeping people off guard and guessing what she’d do until the last minute. This was the last minute. I realized I was on thin ice; there was a strong chance she would never have made the offer if she’d thought I would actually take them, and she could change her mind. I was daring to call her bluff, a move nobody had ever dared to make.  We stood in uncharted territory.

She stood staring for several seconds, then softened and shrugged. “Okay,” she said, turning toward the kitchen. She set aside a few odd pieces, then gestured at the rest, telling me I could have “all of those.” To my delight, “all of those” amounted to all four remaining place settings and several serving dishes. She helped pack and double-box them, and they fit perfectly. There was no room for those extra pieces if she had given them to me. I taped the boxes securely, and headed for UPS, giddy with relief that things had gone smoothly.

“That went well,” said my brother as we drove away. “I really didn’t know what to expect.”

“Nor did I.”

When the box arrived a week later, I anxiously surveyed it. It looked unmarred. A blizzard of peanuts flew through the air as I pulled out piece after piece, going limp with relief when all were intact. I left them on the counter to admire for weeks before finding a place in the cupboard, still hardly daring to believe they were finally mine.

Standing up to an occasionally ornery old lady may not seem like a big deal, but flying in the face of family tradition is. As far as I know even now, nobody ever questioned Grandmother Rene or tried to rush her by stepping ahead of her schedule. The way I read things, if she hadn’t specifically offered to help me pack them, she had reserved the right to change her mind, a likely outcome if anyone crossed her. Taking the initiative in this situation was a huge step, and one that took some terror out of dealing with future curmudgeons.

After her funeral five years later, I brought home the remaining pieces. Her Indian jewelry and other valuables had mysteriously disappeared, so I’m sure I would not have gotten a single dish if I hadn’t acted when I did, which reaffirmed the lesson I had learned.

Those dishes will always be among my most treasured possessions. I would buy them new in a heartbeat, and they remind me of her. That makes them special. The memory of calling her bluff to get them makes them priceless.

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Sharon Melton Lippincott in Machu Picchu

Sharon Lippincott Bio: Sharon is a lifestory and memoir writing instructor and coach, and the author of The Heart and Craft of Lifestory Writing, a handbook on transforming memories into meaningful stories, and numerous other stories and instructional material. Her blog, The Heart and Craft of Life Writing includes over 500 essays and tips on life writing.  Her latest book, Writing With All Your Senses is due to be published in January 2013. She serves on the board of National Association of Memoir Writers and serves an adviser for the Allegheny County Library Association’s 2012 “One Book, One Community” project to start lifestory writing groups in libraries county-wide and across the country. Please check out Sharon’s website , and join her on Twitter, and on Facebook as well as LinkedIn

SoniaMarsh Says: Not only can I “see” you and your Grandmother Rene throughout your story, but I sense her power and strength, and the impact she had on everyone in the family.You summarized it beautifully in one sentence.

“As far as I know even now, nobody ever questioned Grandmother Rene or tried to rush her by stepping ahead of her schedule.”

Thanks for sharing a story many of us can relate to in one form or another, within a family.

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Comments

  1. Sonia Marsh says

    August 13, 2012 at 6:15 am

    What an interesting story Sharon, especially the message about the need to be proactive or “Gutsy” and how you end up with a surprising outcome.

  2. Sherrey Meyer says

    August 13, 2012 at 4:56 pm

    Sharon, I enjoyed so much reading about your grandmother’s Franciscan Ivy dishes and your fear of losing them because of her tenacity and ability to change her mind so freely. I’m glad you have these as a reminder of your favorite memories with her. I especially loved that you just showed up with your brother and packing materials! Gutsy!
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  3. Penelope J. says

    August 13, 2012 at 8:40 pm

    Your Grandmother Rene sounds like a great character, this “occasionally ornery old lady” who reserved the right for changing her mind and catching people off-guard. She certainly kept you on your toes. As for the Franciscan Ivy china, it reminds me of my mother and her Limoges. What a gutsy old lady she was, and how gutsy of you to call her bluff!
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  4. Teresa Cleveland Wendel says

    August 16, 2012 at 4:31 pm

    Hello Sharon–
    My mom has the Franciscan apple pattern, and, unlike you, neither I nor any of my siblings covet those plates. Your ivy ones are pretty, but we were always ashamed when Mom used the “apples” for company.
    It’s funny what embarrasses a kid, isn’t it? We’ll probably all want one place setting just for the memories when Mom passes.
    I really enjoyed your memory of your gram.
    Teresa
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  5. Lady Fi says

    August 18, 2012 at 10:31 am

    What a great character your grandmother was! I enjoyed this story.
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  6. Jerry Waxler says

    August 22, 2012 at 11:54 am

    I have been straining to understand the concept of a gutsy story. Seeing you showing up at the door with those boxes seems quintessentially gutsy. I now get it. Thanks!

    Jerry
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  7. Kathleen Pooler says

    August 22, 2012 at 12:12 pm

    Sharon,
    I love your picture of standing tall at the shoreline. It is a perfect reflection of the powerful message your story conveys so vividly. I really enjoyed the story and the details and found myself cheering for you as you stood up for what you wanted, defying convention. It seems in doing so you enabled Grandma Rene to show her softer side. Great job!
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  8. Samantha M. White says

    September 4, 2012 at 5:29 pm

    Gutsy! The concept is so thought-provoking. I never looked hard at what I’ve done to see whether it contained gutsiness, but now I understand how prevalent it is – has to be! – if we are to take our lives in the direction of our own choosing. Every time we say “yes” to something new, “no” to something hackneyed, is a moment of gutsiness. Taking risks. Risking disapproval and/or disappointment. We can find it within ourselves every time we choose to break a pattern of behavior. I started doing it in my forties, and I guess I keep getting better at it. Thanks for making me stop and think about it, and appreciate it, in you and in me.

  9. JoAnn Melton says

    September 5, 2012 at 4:16 pm

    Sharon, Having been in the situation of dividing up the family treasures – treasures that represented a memory, a scent or an event for us. I’ve also witnessed the sudden disappearance of our Little Golden Books, as well as seeing other shrinkage as years passed. I could see the mental wheels spinning as you patiently waited for the official passage of the china that never quite happened. I could feel the tension mounting as you planned the transfer felt the sigh of relief once the remaining dishes were in their new home. Congratulations on a story well told that occurs in households on a frequent basis!

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