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Are You Ready For A Quick Run?

December 26, 2013 by Sonia Marsh 3 Comments

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My Christmas Gift from Duke

I hope you had a wonderful Christmas celebration with family, friends and lots of goodies to celebrate this time of year. I had 22 people over for a wonderful Danish/French/American Christmas meal.

I am so proud of my husband, Duke. He started running in April, and has lost 65 pounds. He runs daily, anywhere from 5 to 16 miles. This has made a huge difference in how he feels and in the way he now eats.

Duke in Santa Monica 10K race

In order to stay motivated, Duke signs up for 5K and 10K races every month or so, and just registered for his first marathon next June.

I HATE running, and have always said, “I cannot run, my legs won’t move,” until two weeks ago when I decided to run a little, walk a little, run then walk, etc.

I borrowed Duke’s Garmin to see how far I could run, and was thrilled when it displayed, 1.4 miles. Well I did walk a little as well, but don’t tell anyone.

So for Christmas Duke bought me a Garmin watch, and I just downloaded “Map My Run.” I guess he really wants me to run, and with a purple watch–yes, he did try to get a turquoise one–I shall keep running as a warm-up before I go to the gym to lift weights. Yes, I refuse to give up the gym, and doubt I shall be training for a marathon in the next 5 years.

Anyway, I did eat a little too much yesterday, so as soon as I hit Publish, I shall run around the block with my new Garmin Forerunner 10.

What about you? Do you run?

“Why I love Crack” by Jessica O’Gorek

December 23, 2013 by Sonia Marsh 13 Comments

Jessica O'Gorek

Why I love crack cocaine

My Gutsy Story® by Jessica O’Gorek

“I DO NOT ENCOURAGE THE USE OF any legal, illegal or recreational drugs, period. This is a story and not a love confession for crack cocaine. I condone no mind altering substances, not even alcohol, which is why I haven’t even had a beer in over TEN years!”–Jessica O-Gorek.

At eight years old, my parents divorced: strike one. At ten, my mother was bi-polar and had spent a good six months in Western State Mental Hospital then took off to Richmond where I didn’t see her for a good year. I was told she was sick and couldn’t handle raising me at the time: strike three. At twelve, I decided I wanted to smoke cigarettes and being the all-knowing teenager, I would proceed to replace the love I was lacking from my mother by getting it from boys. So I started having sex and sneaking out in the middle of the night: strike four.  At thirteen, I met my future husband: strike five, six and seven. At sixteen, I got drunk for the first time and spent a good half an hour retching in my boyfriend’s front yard: lost count! At seventeen, my father didn’t know what to do with my sorry ass anymore so he left me at his house and went to live thirty minutes away with his girlfriend. At eighteen, I got married, bought a house and two acres in the country and smoked a joint for the first time: Strike infinite!

What follows is a whirlwind story about spousal, drug and all forms of abuse, combined with motherhood, addiction, recovery and chasing my ultimate dream of becoming an author.

Now, where was I? Oh, right, eighteen. I quickly learned that my husband and high school sweet heart is a controlling, physically and emotionally abusive redneck and that the only way we could tolerate each other was by smoking a lot of weed. Twenty: It’s time for a baby! Yeah, I thought maybe a crying, stinky swaddled mess of adorable would save our marriage. Ha! Thankfully, my daughter, combined with a new drug, cocaine, would be the beginning of the end of my first pitiful marriage. When he decided to hit me in front of her at ten months old and strangled me because I wouldn’t let him put coke on certain body parts, I decided it was time to leave.

At twenty, I took my girl and ran over to where my dad moved. I met up with my other high school sweetheart, got my own place for the first time and got clean for about six months. Then I met White Boy Larry, the equivalent of my pimp in disguise. White Boy Larry was his code name to get into the crack house where he introduced me to my new lover, Crack.

Crack and I got along splendidly! He would keep me up all night, make me feel like superwoman, helped me lose weight, and cleaned my house, the perfect life companion, right? Our relationship was one of few words and little emotional growth. He always seemed to know what I wanted, when I wanted it and I couldn’t get enough of him! If he was gone, even for a second, I would miss him so badly! I would go out at all odd hours of the night to try and find him and bring him safely home. The only issue was he wanted me all to himself and would rarely give up any space in my brain or heart so I could share it with my daughter.

After six months, our beautiful relationship began to take a serious nosedive. When he found out I was cheating on him with Sam, my soon to be second husband, he got a little angry. When I told him my daughter meant more to me than him, he got even angrier; so angry that he kept me up for three days, stressed me out so much I developed hives and couldn’t’ eat or drink anything!

Finally, with Sam’s encouragement, I was able to break up with Crack. Sam told me I had an addiction to Crack and that I needed some serious help to get over him. At ninety pounds, with hives and an empty shell of a soul, I made a decision to enter into substance abuse counseling with sixteen other addicts like myself.

That was in 2003, at age 23. I had a few epiphanies while in counseling. As I sat in a room with sixteen other ladies, the counselor told us all that one of us would still be clean within one year’s time. As I looked at the other ladies with their scars and tats, the empty sadness in their eyes reminded me of wounded animals in a cage. I decided that I would be that one person and that no one would stop me. For once, my stubbornness was on my side and not against me.

I quit using all legal, (alcohol included) and illegal substances. I became a wonderful mother, married Sam in 2005, quit smoking cigarettes in 2007, and became a religious exerciser and a vegetarian. Today, I have been clean for eleven years, I run 3-5 miles a day, 4 days a week, I earn a dependable 50K a year, I have a car that’s paid for, my own place, a fabulous 13-year-old girl, I’m a published author and I just took a huge leap of faith by leaving my second husband because I wasn’t in love anymore. My next step at self-preservation is getting off my anti-depressants and working my way to the top of a best sellers list!

So I love crack cocaine because it took me to the dungeon so I could appreciate moving up to the tower of the castle. Without starving in its shadows, I never would have been able to be thankful for any light that crept through between the bars of my dungeon cell. It has taught that if I love myself, everything else will fall where it’s meant to. Not always where and when I want it to, but where it’s meant to.

Jessica O'Gorek Book cover
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 JESSICA O’GOREK BIO: I was born in Chesapeake, Virginia in 1979. I was raised within the American Indian religion and was taught great respect for the earth and all its living beings. I grew up admiring my father, Barry Weinstock, as an author. He took me around the country to different places so he could write his Wilderness Survival books. When I was twelve, I started hand writing novels. My first one was two thousand pages.In October of 2012, I lost him to lung cancer. In his hospital bed, I promised him I would be a famous author one day. He looked at me with all of wisdom and sadness and replied, “Honey, I don’t doubt it.”

The dedication in my first published book, Gemini Rising- Ethereal Fury reads, “I did daddy! I finally did it! This one’s for you.”

  • Please check out Jessica’s website
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SONIA MARSH SAYS: Jessica, I loved your honesty about the bad stuff you went through in your life. Not many are willing to open up to the extent you did and that’s gutsy. Thank you for sharing a tough part of your life with us, and how you succeeded in getting out of your journey towards hell.

Do you have a “My Gutsy Story®” you’d like to share?

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Would you like to submit your “My Gutsy Story®” and get published in our 2nd anthology?

Please see guidelines below and contact Sonia Marsh at: sonia@soniamarsh.com for details.

You can find all the information, and our new sponsors on the “My Gutsy Story®” contest page. (VIDEO) Submission guidelines here

Our December 2013  stories have started with Marian Beaman and Fee Johnson, and Ian Mathie sharing their “My Gutsy Story®.”

How Do I get My Book Made into a Movie?

December 19, 2013 by Sonia Marsh 20 Comments

Typewriter THE END

Like most authors, I really, really want my book made into a movie, and I also believe, like most authors, that I have a unique story that lends itself to a screenplay.

The question is how do I get my book in the hands of the perfect Hollywood producer who will fall in love with my story?

First, let me tell you what happened to me on the day I launched my first book: Freeways to Flip-Flops: A Family’s Year of gutsy Living on a Tropical Island.

I received a phone call from an associate producer of a new TV talk show scheduled to air in the Fall. They found me online by Googling keywords like family/travel/adventure/gutsy. Marianne, the associate producer prepped me for the show, and although things were changed at the last minute, she helped me develop a pitch and suggested I contact (GMA) Good Morning America. Here was the pitch she developed for me: “I took my affluent teenagers to live in the jungle.” I followed her advice but had no luck with (GMA).

But I won’t give up, so I’ve been spending time listening to webinars on how to get your book made into a movie and all of them have asked me to pay a fee for either:

  1. Turning my book into a screenplay or
  2. Guaranteeing that my material will be reviewed by producers without the need of an agent. All I have to do is purchase a set of books and videos (offered at a one-time special low fee) that will help me prepare a 3-5 page in depth description and analysis of my book and capture the attention of real producers.

I asked an award-winning playwright if this is how I should proceed and she said:

“The way this usually works is the producer should be the one paying to option your book, not the other way around.  And there would need to be a written option agreement between you.” 

She added:

“Unless the person is clearly a working screenwriter in Hollywood with LOTS of connections,  even if he wrote the script, the chances he could get it produced are small.  You think the publishing world is tough?  Hollywood is worse.”

I have come to the conclusion that the best way to get your movie in the hands of a producer, is to either:

  • Know a Producer
  • Have a contact in the film industry who knows a producer, or who is close friends with an agent/producer/someone in the business
  • Have a bestseller if you’re indie-published, which will bring attention to your book; think Amanda Hocking
  • If you have a literary agent, have them help you with their film agent contacts
  • Make things happen yourself through networking at conferences, asking people you meet.

In a article by Warren Adler in the Huffington Post, Warren states:

“It is difficult to explain this reality to an eager questioner who believes he or she has created a work of genius. My usual answer is to advise them to find a way to attract the attention of the “Hollywood agentry,” those intrepid and seasoned soldiers whose experience and contacts are geared to gain the attention of stars, producers, studios, writers and the entire gaggle of entrepreneurs who put their judgment on the line and find the money to reach the entertainment marketplace.”

“The real future for novelists may be in venues yet to come made possible by technology that might be just beginning to emerge.”

I am curious what Warren means in this last statement. Sounds interesting.

Warren Adler, best known for “The War of the Roses” garnered outstanding box office and critical success with Golden Globe, BAFTA and multiple award nominations internationally, Adler went on to sell movie and film rights for 12 books, all noted for his character driven and masterful storytelling.

Here is another article I found helpful, “Turn You Book Into a Movie: Tips and Guidelines.”

Even in this article, they stress the importance of contacts.

“In any business, it’s important to make great contacts. If you’ve got big dreams of being a Hollywood blockbuster writer, then it may be time to launch yourself full-on into the Tinsel Town community.”

(Please note, I’m an indie author who is passionate about marketing and sharing with other indie authors on my blog. Please join our Gutsy Indie Publishers Facebook Group where we welcome you to ask questions.

If you’d like links to webinars on this topic, please e-mail me at: Sonia@soniamarsh.com

I hope you join me in Making things happen yourself through networking at conferences, and asking people you meet.

I refuse  to give up.

What about you?

 

“Waiting for My Camel to Come Back” by Ian Mathie

December 16, 2013 by Sonia Marsh 19 Comments

Ian Mathie

The Camel at Ngiouri Well

“My Gutsy Story®” by Ian Mathie

I travelled south from the Bilma oasis, in the empty wastes of the Sahara, with a small Hausa salt trading caravan. We had been going five days when we reached the well at Ngiouri. Situated below a small hillock with a stone cairn on top, the well had not been visited by anyone else for some weeks, and we found it choked with windblown sand. It took us twelve hours digging, passing baskets of sand up a human chain to the surface for disposal, before we were able to get at the water which collected in a small cleft in the bedrock.

By the time we were able to begin watering our camels, I had developed a slight fever, but still had to wait for a drink as the animals are always watered first. The well’s refill time was slow so it took almost half an hour for each of the fifteen camels to drink before any of the humans got a drop. Being an outsider who had joined the caravan for my own convenience, my camel and I had to wait until almost the last.

By the time my turn came the fever had developed, and I was confused and fumbling on the verge of delirium.  When my camel had drunk the first of its intended two buckets of water, something spooked it and it shied away, wandering off into the darkness before I could get a firm grip on its lead rope. Everyone else was too preoccupied with making their own food and settling down for a good night’s sleep to notice. It was eighteen hours after arrival that I finally got a drink myself, having been without water since the previous morning when out original supply ran out.

When dawn came there was no sign of my camel, and the rest of the caravan was preparing to move on. Their party included old people who were in need of medical attention, and could not afford to delay. Hamidi, the caravan master, came to speak to me, saying they could not afford to delay. I would have to remain at the well until my camel came back, while the rest of them went on.

“Will it come back?” I asked.

“Oh, certainly,” he assured me. “A camel can only go nine days without drinking if it has had a full stomach. Yours had only had one bucket. It will be back before that as there is no other water within range. Camels can smell water from many miles away.” He said the pause would give me time to recover from the fever.

Hamidi also assured me that if anyone else found my camel they would bring it here. A white man travelling alone with a camel does not go unnoticed. I and my camel had aroused plenty of discussion at Bilma. Another caravan was due to follow this route four or five days behind us, so if all else failed I could continue my journey with them.

“Just be patient,” he said as he left me, and by noon the caravan had moved on and disappeared over the southern horizon.

Once I was on my own, I moved my camel saddle and baggage panniers onto the rising ground of the cairn topped hillock. Using a pair of four foot long poles, carried for the purpose, and a cotton sheet, I rigged an awning to provide shade, attaching the back to the saddle and weighting the corners with small stones collected from the desert around me. The shade was welcome in the rising heat, and the slightly elevated position enabled me to see some miles back down the route along which the next caravan from Bilma should come. It had the disadvantage of exposing me to the incessant grit-laden wind.

Late that afternoon as I dozed, I heard a familiar gurgling noise. I sat upright, expecting to see the second caravan arriving, but the shimmering desert was empty. When the sound came again, I scrambled from my shelter and looked around. Still there was nothing to see. It was only when I staggered further up the mound, and could look down the other side, that I saw the source of the sound.

A large bull camel was couched, its left foreleg bound with rope to stop it rising. When it saw me, it let out another gurgling bellow. It was completely alone and there was no sign of anyone camped nearby. I wondered where its owner was and how long it had been there. Had it been there before the caravan left? I had seen nobody else at the well, which was in full view of my awning.

It was quite possible the camel had been there for several days, and it had clearly not had a drink in that time. I lurched back to my awning, pulled out my canvas bucket and a half filled water skin, and dragged these over to where it sat. Its head came down immediately as I poured water into the bucket, and in seconds it had sucked this dry. I refilled it twice and as I pulled the bucked clear, the camel shook its head vigorously, its lips flapping and spraying frothy saliva in an ark which glistened in the bright sunlight.

Still not fully recovered from the fever, I lurched back to my shelter and lay down to rest. I awoke in the cool of predawn, feeling thirsty. My water skin was all bit empty, so I took it down to the well to refill it.

The wind, which never stops in this part of the desert, had deposited a generous pile of sand in the well, and it took me all morning to dig this out before I could get at the water. Even then it took the cleft a long time to refill each time I had taken a couple of bows full and decanted it into my water skin. The water was brackish, tasting very like Epsom Salts and I knew not to drink too much in one go or the results could be uncomfortable. It was almost dark by the time I dragged my full water skin out of the well, so I returned to my shelter, ate a few dates and rested.

For two more days I rested and waited. Each evening, when I climbed the hillock to look, the bull camel was still there, waiting patiently. It gurgled when it saw me, but made no effort to rise. After two days, feeling better myself, I gave it another drink.

On my seventh day at the well, the camel’s owner turned up, with two other camels and a small flock of scrawny goats. He watered his animals, thanked me for giving water to the bull and gave me a gourd of fresh goat’s milk. Then he bid me a safe journey and in minutes he and all his animals had disappeared over the horizon.

I sat, alone, through the heat of the day. Just before sunset my own camel came back. She sucked greedily at the first bucket of water I offered, and then, on a whim, I pulled the bucket aside and refused to give her more. I tucked the lead rope into her head collar and let her go. After a moment’s hesitation, she turned and ambled off into the desert as before.

Five days later there was still no sign of the second caravan from Bilma and I was beginning to wonder if I had made a very foolish mistake. As the sun kissed the western horizon, I heard a familiar gurgle. My camel had returned.

This time I watered her well and did not let her go.

Ian Mathie – Bio

Born in Scotland and taken to Africa aged three, Ian Mathie grew up in the bush. After short service as a pilot in the RAF, he returned to West Africa as a rural development officer. Well adapted to living in the bush, Ian worked with isolated societies, sharing their hardships and understanding cultures from the inside.

Following political changes, he returned to the UK and retrained as an industrial psychologist. Since then he has designed and run award winning personnel development programmes in UK, Europe and Africa.

Now restricted from travelling by a medical condition, he lives in south Warwickshire with his wife and dog, and writes books, mainly about Africa.

Ian Mathie - four books

Ian Mathie new book Sorceres
Soon to be published
  • Please check out Ian’s Website
  • You can Ian’s books on Amazon here.
  • The UK Amazon link is here.
  • Also on Goodreads and Facebook.
  • Not on Twitter.

SONIA MARSH SAYS: This is an unique “gutsy” story Ian. I think had I been in your place, I would not have let my camel wonder off. I know you have learned many life lessons from all your years in various parts of Africa. I truly enjoyed reading your first book, “Bride Price.”

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Do you have a “My Gutsy Story®” you’d like to share?

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Would you like to submit your “My Gutsy Story®” and get published in our 2nd anthology?

Please see guidelines below and contact Sonia Marsh at: sonia@soniamarsh.com for details.

You can find all the information, and our new sponsors on the “My Gutsy Story®” contest page. (VIDEO) Submission guidelines here

Our December 2013  stories have started with Marian Beaman and Fee Johnson, sharing their “My Gutsy Story®.” 

Winner of the November “My Gutsy Story®” Ed Robinson

December 12, 2013 by Sonia Marsh 5 Comments

Congratulations to Ed Robinson for winning the November “My Gutsy Story®” contest.
All four authors shared inspiring and motivational stories, and they shall all be included in our 2nd
“My Gutsy Story®” Anthology.

1st Place Ed Robinson.

Ed Robinson
Ed Robinson

 

Ed wrote about how he quit his job to live a simple life on a boat. Ed and his wife Kim have found their paradise.

Ed Robinson

2nd Place: Lola De Maci.

Lola De Maci
Lola De Maci

Lola De Maci wrote a remarkable story about her journey towards getting a Masters Degree in Education, despite fighting breast cancer. She never gave up.

 

Lola De Maci
Lola De Maci

 

3rd Place: Janet Simcic

Janet Simcic
Janet Simcic

Instead of letting cancer stop Janet from doing things with her life, she took a different approach. Janet took on projects she’d put off because she’d been too busy. Her story will energize and motivate you.

Janet Simcic
Janet Simcic

4th Place: Boyd Lemon

 

Boyd has a fascinating story of how he decided to uproot at age sixty-six, after spending his whole life in California, and moved to Boston. After that he decided to move to Paris. He has written several books.

Boyd Lemon
Boyd Lemon

Thank you to all four authors. Your stories are all WINNERS.

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Do you have a “My Gutsy Story®” you’d like to share?

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Would you like to submit your “My Gutsy Story®” and get published in our 2nd anthology?

Please see guidelines below and contact Sonia Marsh at: sonia@soniamarsh.com for details.

You can find all the information, and our new sponsors on the “My Gutsy Story®” contest page. (VIDEO) Submission guidelines here

Our December 2013  stories have started with Marian Beaman and Fee Johnson, sharing their “My Gutsy Story®.” Next Monday, December 16th, Ian Mathie will share his “My Gutsy Story®.”

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