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Do you belong?

November 4, 2010 by Sonia Marsh

Do you feel more secure when you belong to a group or a community?

Well, you’re not alone. Right from birth, children of every race, color, creed and background go through the same developmental stages, one of them being: establishing a personal sense of identity.

As we grow up we try to identify and discover the following:

  • Who am I?
  • What makes me me?
  • Where do I fit in my family and group?

Indeed, some of us spend a lifetime working on those discoveries.

Whether it’s your community, your neighborhood, your church, or perhaps your culture, most of us like the security we get from belonging to a group.

So what happens to those of us who feel like we don’t belong? Those who are minorities, or a mixture of different cultures, or who have been raised in many different countries, and call themselves TCK (Third Culture Kids.) Where do we fit in?


Well fortunately, there are groups for us too.

The one that caught my eye recently is called, “The Art of Non-Conformity,” and was created by a remarkable man named Chris Guillebeau. He blogs about unconventional strategies for life, work and travel.

Chris Guillebeau is a writer, entrepreneur and world traveler. He started the movement, The Art of Non-Conformity based on the principle that, “Once in a while it really hits people that they don’t have to experience the world in the way they have been told to.” One of his goals is to visit each country in the world, (192) by the time he’s 35. So far he’s visited 151 and he’s 32.5 years old. He is an honest, kind and down-to-earth, type of guy, who is passionate about the movement he has started.

If you’re a writer, a world traveler, or simply a person who feels different in their outlook on life, and needs a place to belong, you might want to watch the interview with Chris Guillebeau on David Garlands’s Risetothetop. 

Talk about a creative person, Chris Guillebeau has launched his own book tour around the fifty states in the U.S. called the: “Unconventional Book Tour.”

Unlike traditional book tours, Chris talks about his book for only seven minutes at each stop, then lets the audience talk about whatever they want. Since he’s a world traveler, most of the time conversations range from Frequent Flyer Miles to business startups to blogging… and a range of other things. If you’re a writer you may want to get ideas from his own success. Chris believes, “Publishers (and some authors) think that book tours are no longer practical. I think it’s because they’re doing it wrong, and I’m setting out to prove my case.”

Thanks for reading and for your all your comments. Please comment on whatever sparks your interest.

I’d love to get more readers, so if you like my posts, please return the favor by using the icons below. I don’t want to be tacky, only Gutsy so I’m following in the footsteps of another one of my female role models, Annabel Candy in Australia. I subscribe to her awesome blog: GetintheHotSpot, Annabel Candy.

Share your stories of working with an editor

October 28, 2010 by Sonia Marsh

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I’m sitting at my desk, wolfing down my oatmeal with sliced banana and tasteless, Costco strawberries, before I shower, drive to Peet’s coffee and then fight the 405 freeway to Venice Beach.
I have a 10:30 a.m., appointment with my editor and cannot wait for feedback on my entire manuscript. Remember, I had to shut off my blog for a month to finish my revisions.
No time for more at this point, I’m running late, however,I’d love to hear your experiences of working with an editor, either freelance or at a publishing house.

How to be good

October 4, 2010 by Sonia Marsh

Photo by CK

Most of us like the idea of being good, and since it can mean different things to each one of us, I’d like to explore this topic a little deeper.

As a little girl, being “good” meant obeying my parents, doing well in school and feeling good when someone told my mother, “She’s a good little girl.”

As we grow older, how to be good is generally associated with giving to others, whether it’s a listening ear, helping someone in need, or volunteering our time for what we perceive to be a “good” cause.

I don’t know if you’ve read the book, How to be Good, by Nick Hornby, but I highly recommend it. Not only is the author male, but his protagonist is a mother, wife and doctor, and Hornby captures the true essence of what it’s like to be a wife living with a grumpy, rude, negative husband, who writes a grumpy, rude, negative newspaper column about things that irritate him in his world

Wanting to file for divorce, something strange happens.Rather than trusting his wife, the Doctor, to heal his back aches and headaches, he finds a quack to heal him. His name is DJ Goodnews, and with his hot hands, he not only cures David’s aches and pains, but transforms him into a good man.

Since David is no longer the same man, and thus can no longer write negative columns, he wants to change his family, including his two kids, aged eight and ten, and forces them to give away half their toys, and one of their computers. Together with DJ Goodnews, who moves in with them, David starts an “adopt a homeless teenager into your home,” neighborhood program.

Being good, is taken to the other extreme, and he shows the consequences of what being too good can do to a family.

It’s interesting to think that there are limits on being good. What’s your opinion?
I shall write mine in the comments section,

Stepping back helps you see the obvious.

September 30, 2010 by Sonia Marsh

Parents’ Weekend at NMMI (New Mexico Military Institute)
 A short visit to congratulate my sixteen-year-old son for doing so well and loving his new school.
HELLO EVERYONE.


How are you? It’s been a while hasn’t it?

Thank you for your support, your wonderful comments, and understanding my need to finish my revisions.

I’ve revised my entire manuscript based on the premise, crafting the story with conflicts and obstacles, leading up to the crisis our family faced and finally the resolution. Thanks to my talented editor, I’ve been able to weed out the unnecessary parts and transform my memoir into a cohesive story.


My editor, (I shall give you her name and link later, as she’s almost completed a brand new website) now has the task of reviewing my 311 page, 82.500 word count, starting on October 11th. This allows me to read the entire manuscript out loud and probably do some last minute editing. Is a writer ever done? I thought of recording it onto my ipod, but need to Google search how to do that first. Anyone know?


It’s been 30 days of butt-flattening exercises, (sitting still in a chair.)
I did get a break on September 16-20th, when I flew to Albuquerque, NM, rented a Kia Rio, which almost flew off the road into a neighboring sheep pasture, and landed in Roswell, 170 miles down a lonely road.
I am so proud of my son and all the other cadets, the teachers, and the structure of the school. I attended Jordan’s classes and even learned a few words in Arabic, one of his new subjects.

After a month of non-blogging and no-commenting, I feel rejuvenated. Now don’t get me wrong, of course I’ve missed you, however, my inbox was inundated with blogs I subscribe to like Copyblogger.com, Problogger.com, and you know what?


I felt sad for people who are consumed with their blogs 100% of the time. Now I’m sure there are many who would disagree, including those amazing professional bloggers I mentioned above. But in a way, I thought of the old days, where we could do other things with our lives.


Let me share something with you. When I was forced to take a break for a month, I no longer woke up
at 2 a.m., rushed to my notepad in the bathroom, closed the door, so the light wouldn’t wake up my husband, and wrote down a topic that came to mind. No, instead, I rushed to my computer and wrote down a change I came up with on my manuscript. HAHA. I guess I shall always wake up and write, no matter what project I’m working on. Those sleep through the night, nights are gone forever.

Manuscript Revision Blast

August 26, 2010 by Sonia Marsh

I am working with an amazing editor. She’s an expert on story structure and I call her the Doctor Phil of book editing. She’s an award-winning playwright, published poet, and Emmy nominated writer.

I have a deadline to finish my memoir revisions by the end of September.
My goal is to finish my memoir and get it published, and in order for me to do that, I need to focus 100% on my manuscript. When a sweet lady asked me, “Can I buy your memoir?” at my last presentation on “Gutsy Blogging for Writers,” I realized, “Wow, people actually want to buy my book.” She then asked me if I would autograph a page in her notebook.
This means no blogging or visiting blogs until September 30th. (Ouch!)

It breaks my heart to do this but I have to stay focused for a month. I wish all of you Gutsy Blogging and hope you will come back and visit me when my doors open again on September 30th.
 
All the best to you, and thanks for understanding.

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