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How to satisfy wanderlust from your couch

August 22, 2011 by Sonia Marsh

I have two favorite places to sit in my house, what about you?

Mine are:

1) In front of my computer

2). In front of my TV

No, I’m not a lazy bum, but I admit that there are two things I love, other than my husband of course (although I don’t mean to call him a thing) and that’s:

  • The Internet
  • HGTV’s House Hunters International (preferably with a nice cold glass of Chardonnay.)

As far as the Internet, I’ve taken up way too much time discussing this whole social media thing lately, and just in case you need to make sure you don’t fit in the 6 % category, I urge you to check out Sandra’s step-by-step guide to overcoming digital overwhelm.

Anyway, coming back to my second favorite seat in my house: the one in front of my TV, this is where I could easily spend hours watching HGTV’s House Hunters International, but thankfully the Internet has saved me from becoming a TV addict.

What is House Hunter’s International? and what makes it so exciting?

If you’ve never heard of the program, here’s a brief synopsis:

“House Hunters globe trots from Sao Paolo to Prague. Home hunters and their real estate agents check out all sorts of architectural styles and work through the idiosyncrasies of buying real estate in other countries. In any language, home buying is an emotional experience.“

My explanation of why I love this show is simple; it’s about wanderlust with a twist.

“Wanderlust is a strong desire for or impulse to wander or travel and explore the world”

What better way to escape our depressing economy and job market than through “pretending” that we’re on vacation looking at potential homes to buy. Not surprising, the number of viewers has been growing with an average of about 1.37 million viewers between Sept. 28, 2009, and Sept 7, 2010, and here are some reasons why I believe more people are flocking to this show.

  • we want to escape our busy life
  • we dream of a vacation home
  • we’re nosy
  • we like to snoop around the inside of people’s homes
  • we like to see how houses are furnished in other parts of the world
  • we want to immerse ourselves in another culture, architecture, and way of life
  • we want to see what houses cost in other parts of the world
  • we want a good deal in a foreign country
  • we want to taste new foods, meet new people, see new environments and learn from others
  • we get bored in one place and crave adventure (that’s me and my Gutsy side)
  • we’re looking for another place we could move to (now that’s my real reason for watching House Hunters International)

The other night I watched several back to back episodes of HGTV’s House Hunters International. The one that interested me the most was a couple from Washington DC, who were looking for a house in Botswana. Now I have a blogger friend, Lauri Kubuitsile,  who is a prolific author living in Botswana. I was so excited to see her country and had no clue how beautiful Botswana truly is. Do you really have zebras strolling in your back yard?

Gabarone is the capital with a population of around 186,000.  The American husband on the show was offered a teaching job at the University in Gabarone and I turned towards my husband and said, “Duke, couldn’t you get a job teaching business or law there? Perhaps I could teach French in a school in Gabarone.” He didn’t seem too keen.

The three homes they showed in Botswana were gorgeous. It could have been southern California, as far as the vegetation and the outdoor swimming pools, as well as the price tag for renting which shocked me: $1,800- $2,200/month. Then I thought, “Perhaps the teaching jobs pay well at the University.” A little disappointed, I did expect rent to be much lower but often I’m surprised by house prices and the rent they’re asking on these shows. For example, $5,800 in Budapest. All I can say is I have a feeling they inflate the prices for the show. I know for a fact that the price of condos and houses on Ambergris Caye, Belize, where my family lived for a year, are much higher on the HGTV show than when you actually go there, rent a cheap (hut) and become familiar with the island and the local realtors.

I did a search on HGTV for an episode on Belize, and found one video which I think you will enjoy as it shows why so many seek a second place to escape their work life. A stressed out woman from San Diego wants a second home on Ambergris Caye. She wants to unplug from her busy life in the U.S. This video made me want to move back to savor our slower-paced life on Ambergris Caye, where we lived in 2004-2005.

Do you have wanderlust? In what way? Is there a particular country or place you’d like to move to, have a second home or anything else you’d like to share?

 Photo credit above (Tambako the Jaguar)

How to become a leader in your field

August 18, 2011 by Sonia Marsh

We all have a desire to be successful at what we do, whether it’s professional, personal or simply making the best of the 24 hours we have been given each day.

In these times of uncertainty we have many questions:

  • How can we achieve our goals?
  • How can we take charge and change things for the better?
  • Where is our world heading?

If you are willing to think unconventionally from a business perspective, you can apply there tools to your own personal growth.

The following article “5 ways to fuel leadership in your organization” was written for business leaders, however I think it applies equally to those of us who are self-employed, have goals to publish our work, or start a business.

So what is the one thing we all need to succeed?

Leadership.

Not just old-fashioned leadership but, bold, gutsy and ambitious leadership.

Now if you’re doing it alone, just like a large business, you must take action and align yourself with other people who are willing to shake things up. A quote from “5 ways to fuel leadership in your organization.”

“Leadership is a bold, confident and deliberate choice you make because you want to add value and make a difference. Take note, the organisations filled with gutsy, bold and confident leaders, those willing to shake things up and charge the hill, will find that the field is uncrowded. Success belongs to those organisations willing to invest in leadership.”  

I believe the 5 ways to develop leadership within a company apply equally to us as individuals.

1. Choose to think big and act bold

You need to take charge, connect with others who can help move your small business, publishing goals, or your future in the right direction. Always try to do your best, and don’t allow others to stop you.

2. Define a big, inspiring cause

Perhaps you already have a cause that you’re helping with, and this is fueling you to gain more personal satisfaction with your work. I wrote a previous article on “How Can I Turn My Passion into a job” with Alissa Everett, whom I shall be interviewing shortly about her profession as a photographer, and the non-profit she created: Care Through Action,  as a way to contribute and make a difference to our world.

3. Choose to be Gutsy

Just like a large corporation needs to make tough decisions and focus forward, ask yourself:

  • What can I do?
  • Where do I want to head?
  • What do I want to achieve?

4. Celebrate people and projects

Celebrate others and show and tell the ways they are doing this by starting a “Brag Blog.” Success breeds success.

5. Lighten up and start having fun

Just as many companies have become way too serious, so have people. Kevin and Jackie Freiburg state:

“We’ve lost our passion for balancing work and fun… Fun is a major form of differentiation; fun creates energy, stimulates creativity and boosts productivity! Fun makes doing even mundane tasks more pleasant. When people are having fun at work, it’s like adding fuel to a fire.”

One example of someone who decided to become a leader and take charge of her writing career is Amanda Hocking, one of the most successful self-published, indie authors in recent history, who was offered a $2 million book deal. You can read her a summary of  her publishing goals in this blog interview.

For my writer friends, I asked Jerry Simmons some specific questions about book marketing, e-books, self-publishing and distribution. He has answered my questions in his newsletter WriterReaders newsletter, which I subscribe to and recommend to all writers.

Jerry Simmons

 

Do you feel the uncertain times we live in today are affecting your outlook on the future? In what way?

Photo Credit Above Sergio Castro

Social media addicts take worlidays

August 15, 2011 by Sonia Marsh

I admit I’m an addict, a middle-aged social media addict. How do I know? Because of two things I did while on vacation last week with my husband and youngest son.

Our 25th Wedding Anniversary
  1. It’s our 25th wedding Anniversary and we’re checking into a nice hotel on Pensacola beach, Florida. The first thing I ask before we get our room key is, “What’s your Internet access code?” Then I start thinking, perhaps we can order a bottle of champagne and say cheers in front of our laptops. The good news is my husband is an addict too, but not the BA kind (blogging addict), no he’s an FA (forum addict) the kind where people discuss cameras.
  2. My husband finds a great restaurant within walking distance from our hotel to celebrate our Anniversary. He’s dressed and ready to go and I say, “Let me just finish commenting on this friend’s blog and then we can go.” Is that sad or what?

Now that I’m back home, with no excuses to not get back in the swing of posting, I discovered this article, “Scrap holidays, bring on the ‘worliday’,” which made me realize that perhaps I should quit criticizing social media, and those who participate in it, and simply accept that, old-fashioned holidays are gone forever, and we now have to call them  “worlidays.”  Lucy Kellaway of the Financial Times, invented this word. Another term is the “workation.”

“Worliday is a bit like holiday and a bit like work. It’s the future for most professional workers – and actually, contrary to what most people would have you believe, worliday is really rather nice.” says Lucy Kellaway.

I think most of us are programmed to believe that vacations are about de-stressing and spending time with family, not checking our FaceBook, Tweets, or whatever else we do.  Some experts believe we cannot recharge our batteries unless we “disconnect,” completely from work.

But Kellaway brings up a great point by claiming that we don’t:

” always respond well to a sudden cold-turkey immersion in idleness with the family in a strange place.”

I feel better after reading her article where she points out that prior to Internet days, it would take a good week to “unwind,” and relax and stop worrying about work. Since most Americans take a week or less off, I guess they never have enough time to “unwind.”

Benefits of taking worlidays

  • There is no stark transition between work and holiday
  • You can get away more often, since you’re still (sort of) working

Obviously this  more flexible system may not work for professionals with fixed holidays and hours, however, certain companies like Netflix, allow their employees to go on vacation when they feel like taking one- no-one keeps records.

So are the good old-fashioned board game days of family vacations gone forever?

I think so.  When people sunbathe with their i-phones and eat breakfast with their laptops and tablets, perhaps the newspaper is the only thing left of the good old days.

Are you in favor of worlidays or the traditional pre-Internet holiday?

Are you capable of a complete disconnect? If so what is your maximum time to stay away from the Internet?

Worliday man Photo credit

9 things you don’t know about me (on vacation)

August 9, 2011 by Sonia Marsh

Are you the same person when you’re on vacation as you are at home or are your more Gutsy?

Do you try new things like:

  • Parasailing
  • Bungee jumping
  • Sky diving
  • Helicopter rides
  • Wave runners
  • Snorkeling
  • New foods
  • New drinks
  • Dancing at local night spots
  • Meeting new people
  • Morphing into a crazy, wild person

 

Here are 9 things you don’t know about me when I’m on vacation.

1. I let my hair go wild and curly: its natural state.

2. I love to dance. My husband and I lucked out with the Bag of Donuts, and  The Molly Ringwalds, 80’s music. Pensecola Beach has live music everywhere, and my poor ears are not used to loud nightclubs. I shall remain deaf for weeks.

 

Bag of Donuts
 

3. I drink and eat a little more while on vacation. Pensecola’s specialty drink is called: The Bushwacher. It tastes like a vanilla shake with Kahlua and rum: a great smoothie for hot weather and dancing.

Sonia and Duke at Peg Leg Pete's

4. I try to workout a couple of times at the hotel gym, and am happy when the equipment is in good condition. 

5. I love to walk along the beach at sunrise, with my first cup of coffee. 

Sonia walking on Pensecola Beach

6. I bring my own ground coffee fom Peets to our hotel room, as well as cashews, almonds and cookies from Trader Joe’s for the flights since they no longer offer meals.

 

Hush puppies sweet donut rolls served with dinner

 

7. I hate sunbathing. Many of my European friends can sit for hours in the sun. As long as I’m swimming, walking or doing something other than sunbathing, I prefer to be outdoors.

8. I enjoy talking to people and making new friends. I met Nancy, the jewelry lady from our hotel, and we shared our travel stories. My husband enjoys reading for hours, and like most women, I have to talk.

Sonia and Duke on Snorkeling/Sailing boat trip

9. I try to do something different every day. Either an activity like snorkeling or parasailing, or visiting  local sites.

 

We had a wonderful time sailing and snorkeling with Captain Jim and his wife Cindy. You can check out their Jolly Sailing website with photos. 

Cannon at Fort Pickens

We visited Fort Pickens, the largest of four forts built to defend Pensecola Bay and its navy yard. Built in 1829 and completed in 1834 by African-American slave labor. Fort Pickens was named after Revolutionary War hero General Andrew Pickens.

 

 What about you? Please share 1-9 things about you when you’re on vacation.

Follow your dreams and find yourself

August 4, 2011 by Sonia Marsh

A guest post by Melissa Adams.

I met Melissa Adams at the Southern California Writers Association and knew I had to interview this Gutsy Lady. She’s doing what many of us hope to do: following her dreams. If you’ve never heard of a cycling Safari, you’re in for a treat.

 

Getting Lost to Find Yourself

 

You traded Southern California for Amsterdam. Why?
I grew up in L.A., earned a degree in English from UCLA and became a professional travel writer right out of college. I married, moved to Newport Beach and pursued a career as a corporate communicator, newspaper columnist, advertising copywriter and freelance journalist. While raising two children, my husband and I traveled frequently. But the rift in our values grew with the years. I wanted fun, risk and adventure. He was content pursuing a materialistic American dream.

 

Koninginendag 2008

Our 1999 divorce ended a 23-year marriage that lasted 22 years too long. After a lifetime in California, I felt bored, empty and restless as a mid-life single in an upscale beach town—land of eternal sun and sometimes eternal sadness. Glorious Newport Beach had become a cultural vacuum for me; I’d lost my sense of childlike wonder and was plodding along on auto-pilot.

 

What was the catalyst for change?
In 2007, I took a trip that changed my life. After a week of cycling on the Italian Adriatic with my bike club, I visited my son studying in Florence, then flew to Amsterdam. The minute I landed in Holland’s laid-back capital, I had an epiphany: I was living in a three-bedroom home in a town I’d become jaded about with my cat! My parents were gone, my kids had flown the coop. My possessions owned me, rather than the other way around. Starved for new experiences, I needed a change and was prepared to make one. “I’m moving to Amsterdam,” I announced. And so began My ‘Dam Affair.

 

Is that the title of a book you’re  writing?

It’s an unpublished memoir about my 2008 European adventure. It will be rewritten into My ‘Dam Betrayal, An Expat’s Tale of Scents and Sensibility, a true story about friendship, betrayal and my 2010 entanglement with a Dutch aroma jockey, Dr. Stinky and his Ministry of Nonsense. Stay tuned!

Why Holland?
Since 2007, I’ve been intoxicated by The Netherlands’ beauty, culture, history and quirky residents. Even the weather fascinates me, as I’ve never lived with seasons before. Here, I feel authentic in a way I never did in California. I’m entranced by A’dam’s bohemian vibe, Old World charm and non-snooty attitude toward alternative lifestyles. Dutchies are direct, casual and open-minded, with an egalitarian outlook that eschews authority and welcomes debate. Which makes for interesting discussions. Everyone under 50 speaks English, but you hear many languages on the grachts and straats—evidence of a multicultural population and A’dam’s draw as a world-class tourist destination.

My new hometown is a village where I’m not anonymous as I was back home. Local merchants know me. I meet friends on the street. It’s easy to get around via foot, bike and public transport, so no need for a car. A’dam is also a good base for foreign travel; a 20-minute bus ride gets me to Schipol, gateway to the world. But the best thing about the town is its connectedness. In all my travels, I’ve never found another city where it’s perfectly normal to chat up perfect strangers.

 

I’d like to know about your cycling.

Touring South Africa's Cape Peninsula with Doug Lofland & Beyond Boundaries Travel

 

I’ve been an avid recreational cyclist and member of the Bicycle Club of Irvine since 1994. The group offers something for everyone, from casual weekend riders to elite athletes. Cycling dovetailed with my freelance writing; I’ve ridden and written about bike-barge tours in Italy, Holland, Turkey and the Greek Islands and Egypt.

 

In May 2011, Beyond Boundaries Travel invited me to scout two South Africa cycling itineraries on the Western Cape and “glamping” (luxury camping) on The Savannah Game Preserve near Johannesburg. Outside stunning Hout Bay, we sang with an African gospel choir, climbed Chapman’s Peak Drive (one of the most spectacular coastal stretches in the world) and visited Kirstenbosch Botanical Garden, Constantia Valley Winelands and Robben Island, where Nelson Mandela spent 18 years. We pedaled mountain bikes through tunnels hewn of sheer rock, past foraging baboons and a Jackass (African) Penguin colony at Boulders Beach.

 

Our adventure continued on the Savannah Game Preserve, a 2,500-acre spread on the Vaal River where more than 25 mammal species roam freely. In luxury tents with electricity and full baths, we roughed it like royalty overlooking the watering hole of rhinos, kudus, buffaloes, zebras, jackals, elands, nyalas and duikers.

 

"Glamping" on the Savannah Game Preserve

Here we journeyed “into Africa” with Earth’s fastest endangered cat. Established in 2001 to breed and reintroduce cheetahs to the wild, Savannah Cheetah Foundation is a nonprofit organization dedicated to protecting Africa’s indigenous wildlife and ecosystems.

 

Beyond game drives and relaxed meals on the preserve, we rode through Tumahole Township, stark contrast to  mansions perched on cliffs with to-die-for sea views in Clifton and Camps Bay. We bid our hosts and fellow travelers farewell at a South African braai  (BBQ) and roaring bonfire that illuminated  Zulu dancers.

 

Who’s a good candidate for a cycling safari?

Like people, bike-barge tours and cycling safaris come in all shapes and sizes. There are tours in flat countries like Holland and hilly ones like Greece and Italy, where most monuments are on hill summits. Options include guided, self-guided, themed, family and special interest tours. Many are available through Bike Tours Direct and Beyond Boundaries Travel.

 

Riding with the Rhinos. Savannah Game Preserve

Anyone with moderate fitness and desire for immersion in a foreign culture will enjoy cycle-touring. On two wheels you see, smell, hear, taste and experience more than you do in a bus or car in an up-close-and-personal way. Plus, you enjoy the exhilaration of riding a vehicle associated with childhood freedom through exotic destinations.

 

Do you consider yourself a risk-taker? If so, why?

Zulu dancers at our braai (BBQ)

I consider myself someone who lives life to the fullest, leaving no space for regrets. I re-invented myself after a mid-life divorce with a move that shocked, surprised and puzzled people. For me, the alternative was emotional suicide. I never bloomed where I was planted. But I’ve bloomed on the flip side, in the final quarter of my life. Every day I wake up in Amsterdam is a gift. My only regret is not having 48 hours a day to relish each one.

 

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Melissa Adams is a freelance travel writer based in Amsterdam, NL. She welcomes questions about cycle touring and adventure travel at melissa@wordgeisha.com.

Learn more at www.wordgeisha.com and www.wordgeisha.blogspot.com.

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