Last week I asked Robert MacPhee all the questions I received from you on my blog and via e-mail. Here in my very first podcast interview (44 minutes long) and your chance to listen to Robert’s answers. I have outlined the order in which I asked the questions below. Please contact Robert directly if you wish to purchase his book, Manifesting for Non-Gurus: How to Quickly & Easily Attract Lasting Results, and the companion journal. Robert is very helpful, if you have other questions for him. (Please click link below to listen to podcast.)
PODCAST WITH ROBERT MACPHEE 9-22-11
- Not getting the results I want: Why? Q: Over the years I have been told that to manifest something one has to be pure of heart as well as intentioned, however, I have noticed that I have had clear intentions which have manifested nothing or not what I desired, and other times with unclear intentions manifest things better than expected. What is going on there?
- Procrastination and self-sabotage. Q: My comfort zone is impeding me from going ahead with a lot of seemingly easy things that would not stop someone like you. By now, after 18 years and 4 finished books, I should have published much more than I have yet I constantly self-sabotage my chances. Lots of people have encouraged me, but I procrastinate, make excuses to myself and others, and put up obstacles in my own path. It’s as if I’m expecting, by some stroke of fortune, that this will all just happen. My question might be: Why do I constantly self-sabotage myself from making any real effort to be published?
- How not to fall back into old habits and choices. Q: I’m in the process of recreating a new life for myself after a divorce and want to know how I can avoid falling into the trap of doing things that are familiar and comfortable that will take me back to my old life. For example, I’m dating a guy that has the same 4-5 characteristics of my ex-husband and I don’t want to go there again.
- Divorce, Loss of Spouse, Feeling stuck. Q: My friend Tina lost her husband three years ago. They lived in Panama and she was forced to come back to the U.S. to live with her dad in Colorado for financial reasons. She’s in her 50’s and her dad wants her to move out by December and get a job.
- Travel and your comfort zone. Q: What effect do you think travel has on a person to get out of their comfort zone and change?
- Fear and how to overcome it. Q: As I have gotten older I have developed an intense fear that sometimes cripples me. Some days are ok and some days I can’t do anything. It comes over me like a panic attack. I know this fear is keeping me from doing things. For example, I would love to teach at a college but I am afraid to stand up in front of a group. How do I stop this “fear”? I have become fearful of the fear! I know it’s irrational and silly but I can’t shake it. I have even thought of acupuncture or hypnosis. It is stopping me from being gutsy.
I hope your questions were answered. Please share if you have a friend who might be going through a similar problem and needs to get out of their “comfort zone.”
Lady Fi says
Wow – some great questions here! Thanks a lot.
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Gutsy Writer says
I know it’s a long interview, but I wanted to ask questions people had asked me previously. So I hope they listen to get the answer.
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Gutsy Writer says
Ola, it was my first interview that was recorded. A little long, but fun to do.
Sumit Gupta says
I agree, there is always a strong pull from our comfort zone as we feel safe inside them. We all have build ‘safety walls‘ around us that are strengthened over time and most of the times, we are not even conscious of their existence. They determine what we can and cannot do, what we try and what we don’t, almost all our actions are determined by these safety walls.
But rather than being safety walls, they are more of a trap where we are stuck in a state of supposed comfort and our each decision is determined by these walls. They make us believe that outside of these walls life will be tough and uncomfortable.
Outside of these walls, what I have found is that there are opportunities rather than dangers, there is excitement rather than boredom and relief rather than frustrations. If you have to really live (rather than just exist), go outside and be vulnerable. Be vulnerable to your fears, anxiety and become comfortable with them. Only them you will get a feeling which is truly liberating and peaceful.
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Penelope J. says
Really appreciate you asking a question that I often ask myself about self-sabotage. While I have many real reasons for not achieving my goals, I suspect this may also be one. As soon as I have time, I’ll listen to the podcast (have two rush jobs to complete by mid-week)and let you know my impressions about it.
Thanks a mill for offering your readers this kind of help.
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Gutsy Writer says
Glad to help everyone, including myself, as I learned from Robert’s answers about the steps I need to take to beat procrastination.