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Do You Really Want to Live to 120? The Truth About Healthspan vs. Lifespan

June 4, 2026 by Sonia Marsh 1 Comment

Sonia Marsh is questioning whether she wants to live to 120
Sonia is pondering the point of longevity.

Everywhere I turn these days, someone—usually a billionaire with more money than they know what to do with—is talking about living to 120 or beyond. People like Bryan Johnson, Jeff Bezos, and Mark Zuckerberg are investing billions into the quest to slow aging and extend human life.

Longevity has become one of the hottest topics in the world. Maybe it’s because AI knows everything I research, listen to, or talk about, so my news feeds and podcasts are now filled with experts promising ways to extend my life. Every day, there’s a new supplement, a new biohacking trick, or a new scientific breakthrough claiming it could help us live longer.

But here’s the question I keep asking myself:

Do I really want to live to 120?

The answer isn’t as simple as yes or no.

Living Longer Isn’t the Goal

What interests me far more than lifespan is healthspan.

Healthspan refers to the number of years we remain healthy, active, independent, and able to do the things we love. To me, that’s what really matters.

I don’t want to spend the last twenty years of my life sitting in a chair, dependent on medications, and unable to travel, swim, snorkel, or enjoy adventures.

I want to remain strong enough to carry my own luggage, curious enough to keep exploring the world, and healthy enough to enjoy every stage of life—including becoming a grandmother.

The Medication Trap

One reason I pay attention to healthspan is that I see what happens when health issues begin to pile up.

Many people I know are taking eight, ten, or even more medications every day.

I often listen to these doctors’ podcasts discussing how modern medicine works. Physicians are trained to follow protocols. If you have a particular condition, there is usually a medication for it. The problem is that medications often come with side effects. Then another medication is prescribed to treat those side effects. Before long, a person can find themselves taking a handful of pills every day.

Of course, medications can be lifesaving and necessary in many situations. But my personal goal is to avoid that path as much as possible through prevention.

So how do we increase our chances of staying healthy as we age?

Exercise: Use It or Lose It

Exercise is one of the most powerful tools we have for extending healthspan.

There are two components I focus on:

Cardio

Cardiovascular exercise keeps the heart and lungs healthy and supports endurance as we age.

For me, that means swimming, one of my favorite forms of exercise.

Strength Training

After age 50, adults typically begin losing muscle mass every year. This loss accelerates as we get older.

Why does this happen?

Our muscle fibers naturally shrink with age, and hormone levels such as testosterone and estrogen decline. The result is less strength, poorer balance, and an increased risk of falls.

That’s why lifting weights has become non-negotiable for me.

Muscle isn’t just about looking fit. It’s about maintaining independence.

Sleep: The New Superpower

Sleep has become another hot topic in the health world—and for good reason.

Most experts recommend seven to eight hours of sleep per night.

Sleep supports:

  • Cognitive processing
  • Physical repair
  • Emotional regulation
  • Immune function
  • Memory consolidation

I’ve also noticed that my sleep improves when I avoid television, scrolling on my phone, or consuming too much information right before bed. One habit I’ve adopted is finishing dinner at least three hours before bed.

The older I get, the more I realize that quality sleep isn’t a luxury. It’s a necessity.

Nutrition: You Can’t Outrun a Bad Diet

Nutrition may be one of the biggest factors influencing healthspan.

If there is one thing I consistently hear from longevity experts, it’s this:

Reduce sugar.

Excess sugar contributes to inflammation throughout the body. Chronic inflammation has been linked to many of the diseases people fear most as they age.

Ultra-processed foods, sugary drinks, and highly refined carbohydrates may be convenient, but they often come at a cost.

I try to focus on real food, protein, vegetables, healthy fats, and minimizing added sugars whenever possible.

Am I perfect? Absolutely not.

But I believe small, consistent choices made over decades matter more than occasional bursts of perfection.

Meet the Man Behind the “Don’t Die” Movement

Have you come across Bryan Johnson and his documentary Don’t Die: The Man Who Wants to Live Forever? He has turned himself into a human experiment in the quest to slow aging and extend life.

His daily routine includes strict meal timing (nothing after 11 a.m.), extensive medical testing, dozens of supplements (Which he also sells), intense exercise, early bedtimes (8:30 p.m.), and constant monitoring of his body’s biomarkers. Reports have estimated that he spends around $2 million a year on his anti-aging protocols.

Watching Bryan Johnson’s video on his daily routine made me wonder: Is this really the future we want? Or are we becoming so focused on avoiding death that we forget to enjoy living?

So, Do I Want to Live to 120?

Not really.

Part of me wonders whether we’ve become so obsessed with living longer that we’ve forgotten to ask what those extra years will actually look like.

If I make it to 120, do you know how much exercise I’d need to keep moving? How many laps would I need to swim? How much weight lifting would I have to squeeze into my week? And let’s not even talk about the plastic surgery industry. If people start living to 120, are we all supposed to spend decades trying not to look like old prunes?

Will 120 be the new 60?

Maybe.

But I suspect the real question isn’t how long we can live. It’s whether we can remain healthy, independent, curious, and excited about life while we’re here.

I’d rather be an active, adventurous 90-year-old than a miserable 120-year-old counting pills and doctor’s appointments.

But only if I can remain healthy, active, independent, and engaged with life.

I don’t dream about simply adding years to my life.

I dream about adding life to my years.

If I can still be swimming, traveling, learning, writing, and embracing new adventures at 90, then I’ll happily keep going.

For me, that’s what Gutsy Living is all about—not living forever, but living fully.

What are your thoughts? Please comment below.

 

Why I Quit Dating Apps at 68—And My 35-Year-Old Son Has the Same Problem

April 30, 2026 by Sonia Marsh Leave a Comment

I quit dating apps—and oddly enough, my 35-year-old son and I are in the exact same boat. He has women lining up, I’m attracting men 10–17 years older who need a caregiver, and yet… neither of us is finding what we actually want. So what’s going on here?

Why I’ve Stepped Away from Dating Apps

I have quit dating apps for a while for two reasons: one, no luck, and two, people keep telling me that you meet someone when you least expect it.

The Surprising Truth: My Son and I Have the Same Dating Problems

What I find so interesting about online dating is that my 35-year-old son is having the same issues as me.

We’ve actually become quite close as mother and son, sharing dating stories. The main difference? He has no problem getting dates, while I’m only getting a few dates with older men who have health issues.

The Dating Imbalance: Age, Attraction, and Expectations

My son is a doctor who makes a good living and is 6’4” tall, so women flock to him. Listening to dating podcasts, he fits into that tiny fraction of men who are young, tall, and financially successful.

I, on the other hand, fall into the category of mature women who can only seem to find men 10–20 years older than me—men who often need a woman to take care of them.

This feels unfair, especially since I’m thin, active, intelligent, and fully capable of taking care of myself.

The Real Issue: Avoidant Attachment Style

So what’s the problem for both my son and me? Are we both too picky? Isn’t chemistry important?

During our phone conversations, we’ve realized that we are both “avoidants.” This comes from attachment theory (I’ve included a quick YouTube link if you want to explore it further).

Basically, we are not the clingy type. We’re independent and tend to have our guard up—at least I know I do. We don’t easily show physical affection unless there’s real chemistry.

In other words, we’re picky. And maybe a bit naïve in believing there’s someone out there who meets at least 95% of our criteria. Listening to podcasts on relationships and dating, I’ve come to the conclusion that we look at photos of men, (in my case) and women, (in my son’s case) as products. It’s become online shopping for a partner, just like shopping on Amazon, but without the reviews.

Chemistry vs. Companionship

Intellectually, I understand that perfection doesn’t exist—and I’m certainly not perfect either.

But at this stage of my life, I’m not willing to be with a man I’m not attracted to despite what relationship coaches tell us. “You can grow to fall in love with someone’s personality.” Well, I’m sorry, I need to be attracted to the man physically as well.

I work hard to stay fit, healthy and to keep learning. I travel, build friendships, host gatherings, and genuinely love who I am.

I’m tired of hearing, “You can develop chemistry with someone who’s kind or has a sense of humor.” I call that a friend.

And in my online dating experience, I’ve yet to meet a man—even at 80—who wants to be “just friends.” You know what I mean.

I also have no interest in becoming someone’s caregiver at the beginning of a relationship. It’s different if you’ve been married to this person all your life.

Should I Date Younger Men?

Friends tell me I should date a younger man.

And I would—if I knew he genuinely liked me for who I am. Maybe it’s my avoidant attachment style that makes me feel there is always an ulterior motive on their part. A lack of trust on my part.

What I’m Doing Instead: Real-Life Connections

So these days, I’m focusing on real-life interactions.

I’m joining discussion groups and attending art museum events in Laguna Beach. I love meeting intelligent people—men and women—who have traveled, who are curious, and who refuse to become stale in their thinking.

What I’m Hoping For

What I would truly love is a natural introduction—to meet a single man through someone I trust.

Someone who shares my love of travel, snorkeling, swimming, and staying active. Someone who wants a companion, an equal—not a caretaker.

If you can introduce me to that man, please email me at sonia@soniamarsh.com!

And As for My Son…

As for my son, I’m sure he’ll have no trouble finding someone he can love and marry…

As long as he’s not holding out for 100% perfection.

How to Keep Your Mind Off the Coronavirus

March 22, 2020 by Sonia Marsh Leave a Comment

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During these days of coronavirus where we’re all stuck at home, why not brainstorm ideas to either learn something new or think of a passion that might serve others. Here is a new book and course that might be right for us now.

When I started my blog GutsyLiving.com, I tried to learn as much as I could about how to promote your book as an Indie Author. It then morphed into sharing my life in the Peace Corps in Lesotho. During that time, in 2010-2017, I met Chris Guillebeau in LA (when he launched his first book) The Art of Non-Conformity and admired his creativity, and the way he connected with people around the world. I attended 3 of his conferences in Portland, OR, where I met inspirational speakers, some of whom are now famous, like Gretchen Rubin, “The Happiness Project.” I just signed up for his latest book, The Money Tree and his online Master Class, which is free, if you pre-order his book. I’m sharing this with all of you who love to learn and get fresh ideas.

Chris Guillebeau and me at Book Soup Bookstore in LA in 2010 when Chris launched his first book, The Art of Non-Conformity

The class is for you if:

  • You’re worried (aren’t we all!)
  • Remote work feels unfamiliar and a little strange
  • You understand that uncertainty can also create opportunities

It’s that last part that I want to talk about the most. Let’s be clear: I’m not saying there’s anything good about a virus that makes a lot of people sick and threatens our economy. If I could magically make it go away, I would.

I just mean that you should only worry about what’s within your control to change. So yes, wash your hands—and also think about your future. What do you really want? Are you prepared for a new way of life? If you lost everything today, what would you do?

Let’s talk about it! In this all-new, three-hour master class, I’ll be teaching on these topics.

  • Module 1 – Finding opportunities in the midst of chaos
  • Module 2 – Building extra income even when you already have a job
  • Module 3 – Adjusting to or learning to thrive in working remotely
  • Module 4 – Open Q&A (ask anything, I’ll stay as long as there are questions)

I promise that you’ll go away with new ideas and a practical action plan to improve your life and profit in a time of uncertainty.Attend the Masterclass

To Sign Up, Get My New Book THE MONEY TREE

How much does it cost? The masterclass isn’t for sale, at least not yet! And this isn’t something where you get some material in the class along with a pitch to buy something else. You’ll learn everything you need to know, and there is literally nothing for sale.

I expect to sell this course later for several hundred dollars, but the only way to get it for now is by pre-ordering my new book, THE MONEY TREE.

That’s it—buy at least one copy of the book, in any format, upload the receipt, and you’re in. You’ll get an email with a schedule for the workshop. If you can’t make it live, it will be recorded so you can watch it later.

I’d love to see you in the masterclass. Let’s find a new way to see the world!

To your future,

Chris Guillebeau

P.S. I want to reach as many people as possible with this message. The book is very affordable ($26 or less!), but if you really can’t afford it, let me know and I’ll help you out.

Pre-order & Submit Your Receipt to Attend the Masterclass

To register for the Financial Security in Uncertain Times masterclass, simply purchase at least one copy of THE MONEY TREE, and submit your receipt below.

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