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Is 75 the new 45? Can you can do this?

March 7, 2011 by Sonia Marsh

When I first saw this YouTube video, I was told it was Ginger Rogers at 92, dancing with her 29-year-old great-grandson. I couldn’t believe it!I told my friends at the gym this morning, “You’ve got to see Ginger Rogers and how well she can dance at 92.” Of course, I exaggerated how she was flung up in the air, landing with a back-flip…etc…

I felt motivated to push myself harder, do an extra set of leg extensions and leg curls and another fifty ab crunches on the ball.

“I have to share this with everyone,” I told my husband, and then it occurred to me, “What if it’s not Ginger Rogers?” After my Google search, I discovered that Ginger Rogers died in 1995, and this was a 75-year-old, Englishwoman Sarah “Paddy” Jones who took up salsa dancing after moving to Spain some years ago. In the clip, Sarah is dancing with her dance instructor, Nicholas ‘Nicko’ Espluos.

Disappointed, I thought, well at seventy-five, this no longer seem sensational. Had it been Ginger Rogers at ninety-two, this would be spectacular, but so what at seventy-five.

Then I started thinking about some of the fifty-year-olds at my gym, the ones I used to train as a personal trainer. Many huffed and puffed their way up the stairs, couldn’t get off the floor mat without grabbing onto a chair, and I changed my mind and decided: Sonia, you’re crazy! Sarah “Paddy” Jones is 75. She deserves to be praised for her flexible body and her Gutsy attitude. So what if she’s not Ginger Rogers. She’s “Paddy” and she’s amazing.”

The first minute of the video is a teaser, so please watch to the end. I guarantee you’ll be inspired to start moving, taking a dance class, yoga, or lifting weights, if you haven’t already.

If you’re inspired, please let us know, and share with a friend or someone who could use some motivation today.

How can I get organized?

March 3, 2011 by Sonia Marsh

Sandra Polett
Professional Organizer
Guest Post Interview

Today I’d like to introduce a wonderful professional organizer I met last summer at Peets Coffee in Irvine, California. Sandra Polett recently organized a get-together for a group of women at her home and I could immediately tell she practices the art of organization. Everything in her home was in its place, her table was professionally decorated with home-made flower arrangements, a pink tablecloth and cones filled with candy for a Valentine’s brunch.

Interview with Sandra and helpful tips on how to get and stay organized right away.

1). What is the first thing you do when asked to help someone?
First and foremost I interview the person to see if they are really committed to investing the time and money necessary to do the job. The next thing I do is try to determine if our personalities are a good fit. I work very closely with my clients and am privy to a lot of personal information about their lives. They have to feel comfortable with me. A sense of humor is definitely an added plus. If I feel I am not the right person for the job I will not take it. I have a network of very capable organizers that I am familiar with and I will refer it to someone I think is a better fit if necessary.

2). What is the number one project you are called to help with?
Paperwork. Despite all the hoopla about the paperless society we are far from it. In some ways it has gotten worse because of all the new written disclosures that the government requires of financial institutions, a deluge of “pre-approved” credit card applications and all the new paperwork the schools require regarding internet use, use of children’s’ photos, bullying etc . We are all drowning in paper.

3). What is the Number One task we can do to stay organized?
I call it “defragging”. When you finish a project, finish the project. By this I mean if you come home from a trip take 10 minutes to go through all the reservations, local tourist maps etc and throw out what you don’t need and file the rest. When you finish having the new windows installed throw out all the competitor’s quotes you didn’t use and all the post it notes you accumulated during the process. Most people heave a sigh of relief that the project is done, throw the debris on top of the pile and go to the next thing. With our busy lives it adds up fast.

My favorite “stay organized” tip for people with children is to do a “walk through” before bed each night. Walk through every room in the house and see if there is anything of theirs that is not in its place. Collect all the hair brushes, shoes, and library books and put them in their place. If you do this religiously and don’t let it build up it only takes a few minutes.

4). What is your favorite project?
Paperwork. Sounds crazy but I am a real dot your i’s cross your t’s kind of person and have a financial background so it is really rewarding to help someone who is overwhelmed and unable to determine what to keep, what to throw and how to organize important paperwork. While looking at clutter all day is definitely stressful I think knowing that you are not on top of your important paperwork is even more stressful. Missing a deadline or being unable to find something you need for taxes can snowball into a situation with serious consequences. My second favorite thing is bedroom closets. Who doesn’t enjoy looking at clothes and shoes and making them beautiful?

5). If you like a home that’s clutter free, and your spouse is the opposite, what advice can you give?
Bring in an objective third party. Often when an outsider asks the person in a very pragmatic way to explain why they are keeping a particular item they have to admit that they are not being logical. A man I worked with who had an entire garage full of Motor Trend magazines comes to mind. He said he might need to refer back to them when he was fixing up an old car he planned to restore. I asked him how he would ever go about locating a specific article pertinent to his need. After some thought he admitted he wouldn’t and would probably “just go to the internet instead”. It was like an “Aha” moment for him. His wife had tried for years to get him to purge but the conversation was always fraught with too much emotion thus putting him on the defense.

6). What is your one “GUTSY” tip?
This is a tough one, and definitely requires guts, but start the dialogue with elderly relatives now. If you have an elderly relative with a house chock full of a lifetime of belongings try to get them to understand what a burden it will be for their loved ones. To have to deal with cleaning out an overstuffed home at the same time you are dealing with all the logistics of moving a loved one into a downsized living arrangement or dealing with grief when they pass away is a recipe for disaster . The stress in these “under the gun” clean outs is almost unbearable for the family and creates anger, resentment and a lot of mistakes in judgment.

7). Who is your “ideal” client?
One who is really engaged and excited about the process and especially those who hug me at the end of the job and tell me the weight of the world has been lifted from their shoulders. It is so gratifying to see their stress melt away and know that I was instrumental in making that happen.

Who is Sandra Polett?

Currently living in California, Sandra was born and raised in Delaware, has a Bachelor of Science degree in Home Economics from Hood College in Maryland and has also lived in Pennsylvania and New Jersey.
She spent 15 years in the pension planning industry and has a Q.P.A. (Qualified Pension Administrator) designation from the American Society of Pension Actuaries. She also worked in the Regulatory Affairs department of Merck & Co. Pharmaceutical and been a feature writer for the Branchburg News in New Jersey.
Sandra has been a professional organizer for over six years and is a Golden Circle member of The National Association of Professional Organizers and the Organizer’s Network of Orange County. She organizes both homes and small businesses.
She has been married for twenty – six years, has one teenage daughter and is a volunteer with her local chapter of The National Assistance League.

She can be contacted at spolett@cox.net or (949) 838-6807.

Any questions for Sandra? Any organizing tip you can’t wait to have answered, please ask Sandra, and she’ll answer in the comments section.

Is blogging messing with your mind?

February 28, 2011 by Sonia Marsh

Victoria House, Ambergris Caye, Belize

For once, I’m determined to get my posts ready for the week. It’s Sunday afternoon and I’ve been glued to my office chair, staring at my computer for several hours. What the hell am I doing? the sun is shining and I’m inside my kitchen writing. (No need to tell me I’m crazy, I already realize that thank you.)

Fortunately, I find a blog post that resonates with what I’m thinking today and it’s called: “5 ways fear can mess up your blog,” by Tess Marshall from The Bold Life.

Tess points out “5 ways fear steals your joy and what action you can take in order to enjoy life and the blogging process.” Please hop over to read her great advice.

1. You obsess about the competition.
2. Your content Lacks pizzazz.
3. You Doubt Yourself.
4. You’re unmotivated and stuck.
5. You want to give up and quit.  
  
“Become aware of how many times in one day you wish for a better and bigger blog and all that goes with it?

Now estimate how many times a day you say to yourself,’My life is great just the way it is today!'”

Of course Tess is right, but once you get bitten by the blogger bug, it’s very difficult to erase it from your mind; especially when you’ve been asked to join a panel and speak about “Beyond Blogging” at the Orange County Branch of the California Writers Club.

A romantic dinner at home.

Last night I set a romantic table next to our fireplace. I had candles, roses in a vase, and champagne flutes ready for our dinner. With the kids gone, my husband and I can finally have romantic dinners at home. As we sip our champagne with some smoked salmon appetizers, I ask him, “Do you think I’d spend as many hours in front of my computer if we moved back to Ambergris Caye? (Photo at the top is from Ambergris Caye where we lived from 2004-2005. This is Victoria House, a beautiful resort on the island.) Before he has time to answer, I say, “I’m sure I’d blog and spend hours on my laptop.” In a way I’m scared Gutsy enough to admit that blogging and writing is my obsession, but since statistics show that women outnumber men in the social media world, perhaps society has created a new female disease that requires a new form of treatment.

So my question to you is: “Is blogging messing with your mind?” If so, in what way? 
This question is for men too. Please ask your friends and share.

Any regrets in your life?

February 24, 2011 by Sonia Marsh

regret. nothing.

Photo

Do you find yourself saying: “I wish I’d done… or I wish I’d been… or I wish I hadn’t…” How does that make you feel? We’ve all made mistakes and there’s no reason to beat ourselves up or spend our life feeling guilty about our past.

My mother died when I was twenty-five, and she was fifty-seven. This triggered within me the goal to live a Gutsy life and never postpone my dreams. None of us know how much time we have left, so why not enjoy today, and every single day.

I remember writing about this topic before, and one person’s comment made a lot of sense:

There is no point in regretting anything, because you always do what you think is best at the time. Who would deliberately make a bad decision? Nobody. So, no regrets! Keeps you sane as well.

Perhaps teenagers are more prone to making bad choices even if they realize it at the time. Most of us have made mistakes, some bigger than others, but instead of looking at them with regret or failure, we need think of our past choices as opportunities that resulted in our growth and change.

Drifting back to the past, where we may punish ourselves with our mistakes and regrets, is a waste of time. The what if”s are useful for those who wish to write fiction, but not to be used against ourselves. Instead, we need to look at living in the moment; a universal bond that links all humans whether rich or poor, but so many of us forget to appreciate. I force myself to enjoy the minutes I have right now. It doesn’t happen automatically; I have to stop and think about what I’m doing at this moment.

When a friend wrote: “I was pretty much told, if you have no regrets you are in denial and a liar,” my first thought was: Who would make such a statement?
What do you think?
Any regrets?

Women dominate men in the social media world.

February 10, 2011 by Sonia Marsh

Did you know that women, in all age categories, outnumber men as far as the driving force of social media?

So what? you may say.

According to Johanna Blakely, Deputy Director of the Norman Lear Center (a media-focused think tank at the University of Southern California) this is changing the future of entertainment media. Blakely asks, “If social media is dominating old media, and women are dominating social media, does this mean that women are going to take over global media?”

In traditional media everyone is lumped according to demographics, and viewers over 54 don’t exist. Now with on-line media, people can escape their age, ethnic background and gender, as they aggregate around their shared interests, So it’s no longer age, gender and skin color that matters.

“Shared interests and values are far more powerful aggregators of human beings than demographics,” Blakely says. “Does this mean media companies are going to hire more women and we shall see more female characters in video games, TV, even chick flicks?” she asks.

I’m selfish, and yes, I hope that the entertainment industry realizes that they have a huge audience of females 40+  who are waiting to see movies they can relate to, women on TV they can relate to, marriages they can relate to, and of course family stories they can relate to.

I think connecting, sharing and especially “talking” to others is a female trait, so why am I not surprised to hear that women outnumber men in social networking? Do you realize the potential of social networking? Please share Johanna Blakely’s research with your friends. Lets get moving. This is HUGE!

I’m curious to hear your thoughts, whether male or female?

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