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Vote for Your Favorite April 2013 “My Gutsy Story®”

May 2, 2013 by Sonia Marsh 5 Comments

VOTE BE GUTSY BADGE

The voting starts right now for your favorite April “My Gutsy Story®.”

I shall be in Paris on May 16th to announce the winner and since we are taking a break from the “My Gutsy Story®” series in May, I hope all of you will submit your own “My Gutsy Story®.”

Scroll Down on Sidebar (right underneath the Freeways to Flip-Flops Book Cover) to Vote. Only ONE vote each.

Our first moving story of the month was from David Prosser.

David and Julia Prosser
Julia Prosser, an inspiration to all.

Julia, passed away on March 30th, and David shared his wife’s positive outlook on life while fighting her battle with cancer.

Our second “My Gutsy Story®” is the amazing Win Charles, and she too is an inspiration with her message: “Don’t focus on my disability, focus on what we have in common.”

Win Charles

Our third “My Gutsy Story®” is by the inspiring Carol Bodensteiner who gave up her corporate job in order to find out what matters. She has a wonderful saying: “It’s more important to be satisfied than to be successful.”

Carol Bodensteiner

Our fourth “My Gutsy Story®” was from Linda Kovic-Skow, a gutsy woman, who lied about her ability to speak French in order to get a job as an au pair in a Lyons, France.

Linda Kovic-Skow MGS Cover photo

Our fifth “My Gutsy Story®” is about taking a major risk in your life. Jason Matthews quit his lucrative painting contractor job and followed his passion to become a full-time indie author. He has a truly inspiring story of perseverance and determination to succeed.

Jason Matthews Cover photo

 Do you have a “My Gutsy Story®” you’d like to share?

NOW is the time to submit your “My Gutsy Story®.” Please see guidelines below and contact Sonia Marsh at: sonia@soniamarsh.com for details.

You can find all the information, and our new sponsors on the “My Gutsy Story®” contest page. (VIDEO) Submission guidelines here

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“My Gutsy Story®” Jason Matthews

April 29, 2013 by Sonia Marsh 15 Comments

Jason Matthews Cover photo

Painting With Words

Sometimes one needs to walk away from stability to follow a dream. Usually it’s not easy.

I was a house painting contractor in the Lake Tahoe area of California and Nevada. Painting houses was something I stumbled into after college while looking for work and helping my “ski buddies” with their jobs. Afterwards the phone kept ringing with more work, so much that I eventually got a contractor’s license. For twenty years painting was my main source of income, and while it wasn’t glamorous it did have a lot of perks. I set my own hours, hired friends to help and worked in beautiful Tahoe settings often on multi-million dollar properties. My body stayed fit with the physicality, and my mind enjoyed the low stress focus of simple painting tasks. The money was surprisingly lucrative, as most of the clients were wealthy second home owners from the San Francisco area who happily paid top dollar for quality work. The clientele was steady; not once did I advertise. I even took days off to ski when the snow was good or when I just didn’t feel like working. In many ways, it was an ideal career.

Jason Matthews big snow Truckee CA
Jason Matthews big snow, Truckee, CA

But it wasn’t my dream. As a kid my imagination had always been active; I believed telling the stories inside my head was my destiny. I thought if I could just figure how to get those ideas out there—everything would fall into place. Over the years as I worked at the top of ladders, my mind wandered to characters and scenes that were aching to be expressed. Time passed with me enjoying the Tahoe lifestyle and my mind asking nagging questions. What if I never pursued my dream? What if nobody ever sees these stories like I see them? What can I do about it?

In 2005 I decided to take a winter off from painting and work at my computer in an effort to write a novel. It immediately felt like a lofty goal since I didn’t consider myself a writer. In fact, I wasn’t even an active reader, not having read many books beyond the required lists for school and college.

Winter turned to spring and spring to summer. My novel made progress but the story was complex, revealing itself like an onion shedding layers. The phone often rang with painting jobs. Some of the smaller ones I took for extra money, but more and more I began turning them down and living on savings.

One year of writing become two, then three and four. I drove myself crazy editing and re-editing, feeling like I had read and perfected the same book one hundred times while I queried agents and publishers, all who passed on my story. I also exhausted the money in savings, but I believed in my dream enough to take a second mortgage out on my house and live on credit. Not easy to do with a wife who wasn’t earning much and two teenage daughters to support. Soon the mortgages, monthly bills and living expenses drove me deeply in debt.

In 2009 I had a finished novel, one that made me proud. Self-publishing had made recent strides, and in desperation to avoid more rejection letters I published on Kindle and everywhere possible. A few sales came in followed by glowing reviews. I was convinced my dream would pan out and began writing what I believed was a great sequel novel.

I spent the next year working on the sequel and marketing my novel with bad ideas that drove me further in debt. My painting clients had mostly dried up, but a few jobs trickled in to provide needed cash. A decision had to be made. My options were clear: return to painting for a few years or put all my energy into writing and marketing books. Despite the needs of a family and a large debt already in place, I chose the latter.

I did everything I could find to promote my books, especially things that were online and free. It was difficult since there were so many things to learn, and I hadn’t been active on the internet. Little did I know how important blogging and social media would become. That first year felt like a non-stop effort of catching-up with online wisdom.

In 2010 I decided to spend one last small fortune on a writing conference. It was in San Francisco, held shortly after publishing my second novel. At the conference I had conversations with other writers about what we were doing for our books. Predominantly, the other writers were stuck sending query letters and getting rejected. When people asked me, I’d say, “I’m selling on Amazon and other retailers plus my own websites. I’m blogging and active with social media. I’m submitting articles, press releases, doing radio shows and interviews.” Then I mentioned everything was free and the authors would start taking notes, saying that my information was more valuable than the classes at the conference. The proverbial light-bulb went off over my head. I knew the next book would be a how-to guide for self-publishing using free online methods.

I went home invigorated. The how-to book seemed to write itself, transforming from concept to paid sales in just one month. To date, that book has sold well over ten thousand copies and ingrained me in self-publishing circles as an indie author expert.

Jason Matthews Barnes & Noble 2006 author signing
Jason Matthews Barnes & Noble 2006 author signing

Where am I now? Still trying to sell my novels and write more. And they better sell because I can’t go back to old ways. I sold our Tahoe house to escape debt. We’ve moved to a new area. My painting clientele is gone. My friends who can paint with me are gone. It would take years to begin anew as a contractor down here, like starting over.

This tale hasn’t ended, but the bridges I’ve crossed have been burned. My dream of a writing career is going to work, or I will die trying.

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Jason Matthews Bio: Jason Matthews lives in Pismo Beach, California with his wife and daughters. He’s worked as a snow-maker, a house painting contractor and a full-time writer. He loves skiing, dogs and playing/coaching soccer. His novels include: The Little Universe,

Jason Matthews The Little Universe kdpamazon 11-7-2012

Jim’s Life. 

His guides include: How to Make, Market And Sell Ebooks All for Free,

Jason Matthews How to Make, Market, e-book

How to Make Your Own Free Website And Your Free Blog Too, Get On Google Front Page.

Jason’s Website: http://www.thelittleuniverse.com

You can follow Jason on Twitter: @Jason_Matthews

Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/Jason.M.Matthews

 Sonia Marsh Says: Jason you took a major risk and followed your passion to write. I admire your courage, especially as you have a family to take care of, and decided to “walk away” from your lucrative paint contractor business. Your hard work and perseverance is paying off, and you give so many hope that they too can find their “niche,” as long as they are determined.

“I did everything I could find to promote my books, especially things that were online and free. It was difficult since there were so many things to learn, and I hadn’t been active on the internet.”

During MAY, I shall be in Copenhagen, Paris, Orleans, and a brief stop in London. My father turns 88, and Kathy Pooler, and other memoir writers have made me realize that I want to ask him questions about my life as a child in Nigeria, as well as his life in a camp outside Paris, as a 15-year-old boy during WWII.

Meanwhile, please submit your “My Gutsy Story®” which will continue in June.

Do you have a “My Gutsy Story®” you’d like to share?

NOW is the time to submit your “My Gutsy Story®.” Please see guidelines below and contact Sonia Marsh at: sonia@soniamarsh.com for details.

Please read and share our April 2013 stories by David Prosser, Win Charles, Carol Bodensteiner, and Linda Kovic-Skow.

Voting starts on May 2nd-May 15th for your favorite April 

“My Gutsy Story®” .

You can find all the information, and our new sponsors on the “My Gutsy Story®” contest page. (VIDEO) Submission guidelines here

“My Gutsy Story®” Carol Bodensteiner

April 15, 2013 by Sonia Marsh 42 Comments

Carol Bodensteiner

“Giving Up Everything to Find What Matters”

I spent 15 years trying to quit my job. At least that’s what my husband tells me.

He says that in October 1985, on our first date, as we both tried to politely avoid eating more than our fair share of a bubbling square of flaming cheese at the local Greek restaurant, I told him I was thinking about leaving the agency where I’d worked for the past six years. According to him, I didn’t know where I’d go, only that I wouldn’t be working in the public relations business all that much longer.

Truthfully, I don’t remember that conversation. Guess I was too focused on getting my share of the cheese.  Long before anyone pointed out the significance of moving someone’s cheese.

By an accident of circumstances, I’d fallen into a career perfectly suited for me. One where the clients and jobs changed so rapidly there was no time to get bored. One where every day the smart people I worked with challenged me to do my best and solve big problems.  One where the work gave me a huge adrenaline rush.

When my husband and I had that first date, I was on the fast track and working hard to stay there. I’d just been promoted to account supervisor at one of the Midwest’s largest business-to-business advertising and public relations agencies. I’d recently returned from a six-week workshop at our headquarters in New York, where I’d hobnobbed with the up-and-coming leaders of a worldwide agency.

A decade later, I was president of the public relations division, a principal of the firm, with a solid reputation as a client counselor and staff mentor.  My future was bright. I was the go-to person and I had the job I’d always dreamed about.

And, after years of having no time to think of anything but the task at hand, of living with a perpetual headache, I was completely burned out.

But how do you walk away from the top of the heap, when you’re only 51? How do you give up the title, the prestige, the paycheck? What person in their right mind would do that?

I probed my career concerns with colleagues, clients and friends, and the money issues with my husband.

Why keep doing these jobs if they’re unsatisfying? I asked a colleague one day. His answer – Because we’re good at it.  I found his answer equally unsatisfying.

When I posed the same question to the head of the advertising division, his answer – Because our work gives a lot of others good lives – felt more worthy. But still not enough to keep me going.

Perhaps the largest question was at the core of my anxiety: What would people think? Not only was I in the business of managing perception for clients, I’d also spent my own life being what people expected, exceeding what people expected.

One day over lunch, I asked my client, the first female CEO of a major bank, what she’d say if she saw me working as a clerk in a garden supply store (because having some money is actually a necessary thing). She laughed and said, I’d ask if you could get me a job! Apparently I wasn’t the only one wondering if being on top was worth it!

Were the title, the prestige, the paycheck really me? Or was I something else? The more I agonized, the more dissatisfied I became. Finally, I realized I could pick apart the problem forever and get nowhere closer to certainty, not while the job required 120% every day.

I walked into my boss’s office and quit. He countered with a sabbatical. Unbelievably, I agreed.

During the next five months, I spent most of my time talking with my parents about their lives. The more I talked to them, the more I remembered my own childhood and rediscovered the values that shaped me. The stories I wrote during those months were the genesis of a memoir of my childhood published in 2008: Growing Up Country: Memories of an Iowa Farm Girl. The creativity was positively gushing out of me. I felt great!

At the end of the sabbatical, I walked back into my office and three things happened. 1) The gushing stream of ideas stopped as though someone had turned off a faucet.  2) I developed sciatica. 3) I came down with shingles.

But did I walk right back out? No. Even in the face of all that, I continued to work for another year. At last, on May 1, 1999, I left for good. No job. No title. No paycheck. My only certainty was that it was better to do nothing at all than to stay in a job that didn’t nurture my soul.

I’ve never regretted walking away.

A few observations to offer from my experience.

People often say, I wish I could do what you did. I respond, You can. It’s a matter of priorities. My priorities were my time and my health. No amount of money or prestige was an adequate tradeoff.

If you’re satisfied doing what you do, keep on. If you’re dissatisfied, change the job. Or change your attitude. Or leave. It’s more important to be satisfied than to be successful. Or maybe the fact is that if you are satisfied, you will be successful—on your own terms.

The answers to our individual needs are inside us if we listen. I’ve found that to be true with CEOs I’ve counseled. They almost always know what they should do; they just need someone help them reason it out. My answers were inside of me, too. When years of rational thought went unheeded, my body sent me a physical message. Finally I listened.

Though I sometimes groan remembering that I let my boss talk me into that sabbatical, I have to acknowledge what a gift those months ultimately were. During that leave, I had time to spend with family and friends. Time to turn on the faucet and begin to slake my thirst for writing. Time to discover what was really important to me.

Carol Bodensteiner – Bio

Carol Bodensteiner is a writer who finds inspiration in the places, people, culture and history of the Midwest. After a successful career in public relations consulting, she turned to creative writing. She published her memoir GROWING UP COUNTRY in 2008.

Carol Bodensteiner Book Cover

She’s working on her first novel, historical fiction set during World War I.  Carol writes regularly for The Iowan magazine www.iowan.com and blogs about writing, her prairie, gardening, and whatever in life interests her at the moment at www.carolbodensteiner.com.  Carol’s twitter handle is: @CABodensteiner. Join Carol on LinkedIn , and Facebook.

Growing Up Country: Memories of an Iowa Farm Girl is available in paperback and e-book forms from: Amazon

Sonia Marsh Says: I love this phrase, and shall keep it in mind when I speak about “Gutsy Living.”

“It’s more important to be satisfied than to be successful.”

I also agree with you that sometimes we need to “step away” to get things into perspective and back on track in our lives. You did this with your sabbatical, just as my family did by moving to Belize.

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Do you have a “My Gutsy Story®” you’d like to share?

NOW is the time to submit your “My Gutsy Story®.” Please see guidelines below and contact Sonia Marsh at: sonia@soniamarsh.com for details.

Please read and share our first April 2013 story by David Prosser and our second by Win Charles.

You can find all the information, and our new sponsors on the “My Gutsy Story®” contest page. (VIDEO) Submission guidelines here

Winner of March 2013 “My Gutsy Story®”

April 11, 2013 by Sonia Marsh 2 Comments

Bonnie Kassel WINNER
Bonnie Kassel WINNER

Congratulations to Bonnie Kassel for getting 78 votes and winning first place for her story of adventure about Crossing the Sahara in a VW Bug.

1-Bonnie-Kassel

In 2nd Place, we have the wonderful story from Dorit Sasson who through her writing, and helping others, is helping people look for a deeper social and emotional connection with others.

Dorit Sasson
Dorit Sasson

Dorit Sasson Cover Photo

In 3rd Place, we have  Linda Lochridge Heonisberg, with her incredible story of courage and determination in overcoming so many obstacles in her life.

Linda Hoenisberg
Linda Hoenisberg

1-Linda Lochridge Hoenigsberg

In 4th place, Owen Jones shared his intriguing “spy” story of the Russian Dissident and him. He continues to be “gutsy” and now lives in a small vilage in northern Thailand.

Ready to go...

Thank you so much to all four of you. You are all winners and have some wonderful stories and books you’ve written to share with everyone.

Do you have a “My Gutsy Story®” you’d like to share?

NOW is the time to submit your “My Gutsy Story®.” Please see guidelines below and contact Sonia Marsh at: sonia@soniamarsh.com for details.

Please read and share our first April 2013 story by David Prosser and our second by Win Charles.

You can find all the information, and our new sponsors on the “My Gutsy Story®” contest page. (VIDEO) Submission guidelines here

“My Gutsy Story®” Win Charles

April 8, 2013 by Sonia Marsh 14 Comments

Win Charles

My Gutsy Living story

The gutsiest thing I have ever done was to write my biography at the age of twenty-four. I did this as a form of grief therapy after losing my mom a few years back.

When I decided to write my biography people thought I was absolutely insane; they never thought it would get published.

The reason I wrote my biography, was not only to leave a legacy as to how wonderful my parents have been throughout my life, but also because I was sick and tired of the misconceptions about cerebral palsy.

I wrote I,Win for myself, and now I,Win has turned into a small, kind Monster that I cannot control.

I seem to be doing interviews about why I wrote my book every day, and my goal is to help people understand the misconceptions they may have about cerebral palsy.

At the age of twenty-four, I decided to tell my story. Writing this autobiography gave me the opportunity to pay tribute to my family members who are passionate about life, and who have instilled this passion within me.

My parents’ extraordinary support, encouragement, and pure love were my foundation as I navigated life, overcame obstacles, and achieved successes as a young woman with cerebral palsy.

I wish to pay full tribute to my mother, who died in August 2010. Through her, I learned to listen to my own voice as a guide in making life choices, and to always expect the best from myself.

My hope is that my book, I Win, will provide insight into the extraordinary possibilities of those who live with disabilities. I also hope that those without disabilities– instead of focusing on our differences – will come to understand what we all have in common.

This book is for my mom, with love.

win-book cover

Win Charles Bio:  My name is Win Charles. In 1987 I was born in Aspen, CO where I continue to live. I am a self-taught artist and became interested in doing artwork as a way to cope with having cerebral palsy. My inspiration for my artwork is life in general as well as roses, orchids and the flora and fauna of the Bahamas; I always had a life long admiration for the Bahamian Islands and it’s people and the flora and fauna of the Bahamian Islands.

http://www.redbubble.com/people/wcharles
http://authorwincharles.com/
“I’m a disabled woman, living a non disabled life”~ Win C

You can follow Win on Facebook, and on Twitter @iwinbook

Here is Win’s Video.

 Sonia Marsh Says: Your energy and passion shines through and your message of “I have cerebral palsy; please focus on what we have in common, not on my disability,” needs to be heard, and will be heard through all your work.

Please ask questions and leave comments for Win Charles below.

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Please VOTE for your favorite March “My Gutsy Story®” Scroll Down on Sidebar (right underneath the Anthology Book Cover) to Vote. Only ONE vote each.

Do you have a “My Gutsy Story®” you’d like to share?

NOW is the time to submit your “My Gutsy Story®.” Please see guidelines below and contact Sonia Marsh at: sonia@soniamarsh.com for details.

You can find all the information, and our new sponsors on the “My Gutsy Story®” contest page. (VIDEO) Submission guidelines here

Our first “My Gutsy Story®” for April 3013, is by David Prosser. It’s a very moving story about his wife Julia.

 

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