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Gutsy Book Buzz: A Different Way to Market Your Book

October 4, 2012 by Sonia Marsh

Writing and publishing a book is a business, and if you want to be successful, you have to promote and market your book yourself.

There are several ways to market your book, and one way is to start small, and build your way up. That’s what I’m doing, and I decided to never say “no,” even if the group I speak to is small.

Most of us can’t afford a super expensive publicist who promises a national TV spot for $5,000 or more.

So last week, I was invited to sell my book at a fashion store in Newport Beach. Most authors would not think of promoting their book at a fashion store unless it was related to fashion design, modeling, or starting your own clothing store.

Sonia Marsh far left, customers and staff

But since I refuse to say “No,” to opportunities, I said, “Yes,” to Monir Ghaneian, and had the most amazing afternoon and evening at her beautiful “Tropez” Boutique in Newport Beach.

Inside Tropez Boutique, Newport Beach, California

Not only was I surrounded by gorgeous dresses, necklaces, purses and shoes, including fancy flip-flops, to go with the theme of my book: Freeways to Flip-Flops but Monir invited her Persian friends and relatives and I have never felt so comfortable in a clothing store in my life.

Monir Ghaneian, far left and her staff

We had a wine tasting with Lillian Norminton offering wines from the Napa Valley Levendi Winery as well as home made Persian appetizers and salads and gourmet cheeses.

Lilliian Normington from Levendi Winery holding a bottle of their Chardonnay

Several customers walked in, tried on outfits, and came out of the changing room to get feedback from all of us women, and I honestly felt like I was invited to my best friend’s house. A singer walked in, a small business owner, and a mother and her daughter shopping for her high school reunion outfit. The atmoshere was magical and women from different backgrounds bonded, just as women love to do.

Monir wanted to help me promote my book, and asked me to make a mini-presentation in front of all her customers. She heard me speak at WomenROK at the Wine Artist in June, and thought I should share my memoir with her relatives and customers.

I truly believe that when you are open to new ideas in your local community, magical things can happen to you, with your business.

What have you tried that was different to market your book? Did it work?

Check out the wonderful bloggers who interviewed me around the world.

You can check out all the interviews here, and I’m so happy to be a guest on Linda Austin’s blog 9-30-12

Do you have a “My Gutsy Story” you’d like to share?

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Please vote for your favorite September, “My Gutsy Story” on the sidebar. The winner will be announced on October 11th.


 

“My Gutsy Story” by Duke Marsh

October 1, 2012 by Sonia Marsh

I was interviewed once by a film school graduate for a film magazine, who had the attitude of who was I to think I can make feature film without an expensive film school, and without working for years as an intern.

Who am I?  I was born in a small town in Pennsylvania.  The first house I remember as a child was a log cabin without electricity out in the woods on Mason Hill.  Later we lived in an oil boom town that had gone bust.  It was a small town with limited opportunities.

As a kid I decided that I needed to do things differently from the people around me if I was going to be a winner.  I heard the famous coach Vince Lombardi say “Victory doesn’t just go to the strongest and the fastest it goes to the one who thinks he can win.”  I came to four important conclusions.

If I don’t try I don’t win.

  1. Winning doesn’t require that I to be better than everyone else.
  2. Bad habits and bad assumptions are my worst enemies.
  3. Teaching others teaches me.

As a kid I read classic books because no matter how difficult they were to read, there was a reason that they had become classics.  I remembered a quote from Aristotle who said “We are what we do.  Excellence is not an act, but a habit.”

After the real estate bust in the 1980s I realized that economic security is a necessity, so I decided to become the first person in my family to become an attorney.

I had no role model, but I realized that I could only be defeated by my own doubts.

I worked full time at a maximum security prison in a disciplinary unit at night to get through law school.  All my workers were murderers.  I went to law school full time in the day time even when I had to stand up in the class to stay awake.  I discovered that if I trained my mind to win, success would follow.

I passed the bar, worked hard for 25 years, raised my family, put the kids through college.  But that’s not who I am either.  Not all of me anyway.

When I was a kid I wrote poems and stories.  I wanted to make films, but we had no money.  Filmmaking is a risky proposition.  It was better for me to put my nose to the grindstone, but I always wanted more.  I wanted a change and I viewed myself as a winner.

I learned several things about life while working in the prison.  Life will keep you on your knees if you let it and excuses don’t count so don’t bother making them.

Rocky Balboa said something like “Winning is about how much you can take and still keep moving forward” and I don’t think truer words have ever been spoken.

Duke Marsh Directing

Young people are fun to be around because they are the opposite.  They radiate potential.  Unfortunately that doesn’t last long as they are continually told they aren’t good enough, aren’t smart enough or don’t have the background to reach their dreams.  Eventually they believe the criticism.

I want to tell each of them to “Dare to be great!”  “Live your life with a purpose!”  “It’s not where you came from, it’s about your desire to do something!”

The first thing I do every morning is the hardest thing for me to do that day, so I’ll have no excuses. I focus on doing one small thing at a time and do it the best I can do it.  Doing things right the first time gives you more free time!

The happiest times of my life are when I am making progress on my projects.  Don’t do it by force of will power.  Create an inspiring goal to fuel your desire.  By creating this vision I create an intense positive emotional reason to succeed.

I do little steps every day, and consistent problem solving.  There are no sudden successes or failures.  The old joke is that it takes 10 years to become an overnight success.  Remember to meet people, to read books and write a nice notes.

Tony Robbins says “We act consistent with who we think we are.”  If you think of yourself as a smoker, even if you quit smoking you’ll eventually return to smoking.

When did you define yourself?  Did you decide what you were capable of doing as an undeveloped kid?  Is that fair to who you are now?  What is the tipping point to decide it’s time to redefine who we are?

Athletes find the time to work out.  People who make money find a way to make more money.  We are the actions we do consistently.  I know who I am and I’m taking action.

I continue to work at improving my script writing, editing and camera work.  I don’t have a Masters degree in filmmaking, so I draw upon the unconventional.  I find that if I work with people with a high standard for filmmaking that I raise the bar for my own standards.

I won’t let my filmmaking associates down.  I won’t let my filmmaking friends fail. Age, experience and education will not stop me. I will not know the meaning of defeat!  I’ve made three feature length movies and this year I’m going to (AFM) American Film Market, October 31st-November 7th, 2012.  (like Cannes for the west coast.)

My latest movie, based on a novel by Linnea Sinclair is for women who like romance in a sci-fi setting. Watch the trailer here and photos here.

The Down Home Alien Blues movie details are on IMDb.  Some fun production shots here. Be sure to ask for The Down Home Alien Blues at your local theater.

Nathalie Biermanns

By the way, that film school graduate that told me I would never make it in movies, to this day has never completed a feature film of his own.

 

Jay Mitsch

I am Duke Marsh, a feature film maker, and I am a winner!

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Duke Marsh Bio:

C. Duke Marsh – Director, Cinematographer, Writer, Producer (and attorney)

Born in Pennsylvania and raised in California.  Duke has a doctorate in law as well as degrees in business and real estate. While married, raising his three sons and practicing law he also wanted to learn about filmmaking.

The time spent practicing law would not allow him to intern on movies or gain experience in other traditional ways.

He never believed anyone was going to just give him a chance to work on films.  But, when the video revolution began he saw it as opening to create digital movies, and built his own video camera and video monitor from parts.

Then he spent years learning about lighting, sound, lenses, cameras, writing, directing, and movie production in order to do it on his own.

Back in the VHS days video wasn’t good enough to produce a feature film, but the second video revolution of digital cinema slowly made filmmaking broadly available to those with the knowledge to use it properly.

The equipment was soon upgraded to increasingly better equipment as he gained experience and connections while writing, producing, direction and shooting various movies.  He has won a Telly Award and a Videographer’s award.

Sonia Marsh Says: Yes, Duke is my husband. You may already know about our family from my book, Freeways to Flip-Flops: A Family’s Year of gutsy Living on a Tropical Island.

I am so proud of Duke, but confess that I had no idea about his childhood passion and dream to make movies until I heard his emotional speech at a recent SCWA event, where he shared his story with the audience.

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Check out the wonderful bloggers who interviewed me around the world.

You can check out all the interviews here, and I’m so happy to be a guest on Linda Austin’s blog 9-30-12

Do you have a “My Gutsy Story” you’d like to share?

To submit your own, “My Gutsy Story” you can find all the information, and our sponsors on the “My Gutsy Story” contest page. (VIDEO) Submission guidelines here.

Please vote for your favorite September, “My Gutsy Story” on the sidebar. The winner will be announced on October 11th.

Vote for your favorite September “My Gutsy Story”

September 27, 2012 by Sonia Marsh

Another wonderful month with 4 “My Gutsy Story” authors to vote for your favorite. Please go to the sidebar and only ONE vote per person.

Tom Cirignano shows his “Gutsy” side when he was a young man who just decided to go for it with his ultralight. Thankfully his ultralight mishap ended well.

Tom Cirignano

 

Tracy Leigh Ball shares her story to make parents aware of what happens when you send your child away to become a “star” without taking the necessary legal steps and more.

Tracy Leigh Ball

 

Jonna Ivin injects humor into a dramatic situation: “Oh Dear Lord, I’ve just killed my mother.” 

Jonna Ivin

 

Paige Strickland shows her persistence and positive attitude in attempting to find her birth relatives and how it paid off.

Paige Strickland

Check out the wonderful bloggers who interviewed me around the world.

You can check out all the interviews here, and I’m so happy to be a guest on Rebecca Hall’s blog “Leaving Cairo” 9-29-12

Do you have a “My Gutsy Story” you’d like to share?

To submit your own, “My Gutsy Story” you can find all the information, and our sponsors on the “My Gutsy Story” contest page. (VIDEO) Submission guidelines here.

The vote for your favorite September, “My Gutsy Story” submissions starts on September 27, and ends on October 10th. The winner will be announced on October 11th.

“My Gutsy Story” by Paige Strickland

September 24, 2012 by Sonia Marsh

Ever since I could remember, I knew I was adopted.  I absolutely hated it and felt ashamed, weird and different.  Growing up in the 1960s and 70s, there weren’t any other blended or “other lifestyle” families where I lived, and being an adopted kid was stigmatizing and awkward. My adoption was considered a closed and permanent matter by the court anyway, so most of the time, I tried to forget about that part of myself and just live like regular-born people did, (whatever that was), even if it meant I had to lie to friends and acquaintances.

As hard as I tried to forget about it, I couldn’t, and that was frustrating and agonizing to not really be like other kids.  My adoption was a success in that I had a great family and plenty of advantages, but I never felt normal.

I knew nothing about “The Lady Who Had Me”, as I thought of her, nor any information about her circumstances other than the fact that she was young, poor and couldn’t keep me.  I never felt anger toward her or my birth father, but I did feel anger because I didn’t have a typical start in life, like my peers and my brother, who was my adoptive parents’ natural child. At the time, “The Lady Who Had Me” was brave and faithful because she went through with her pregnancy and then made the choice to relinquish her parental rights to Hamilton County Welfare with the hope that I would have a better life than the one she could provide for me. It doesn’t get much gutsier than that.

In 1987 when I was 26 years old, after watching a local TV talk show, I learned that my adoption record in Ohio was actually open, thanks to House Bill 84.  I was one of the lucky few that could obtain personal information about my secret identity if I wanted to.  After living in denial of being adopted for 26 years and mad because I couldn’t be like other people without having to fake it, I made the decision to send away to Columbus for my unamended birth certificate, which I imagined to be locked away in the bottom part of a top-secret file cabinet in a smoke and coffee-smelling office, where hurried social workers scurried about answering phones and filling out forms.

For all those years, I’d been living securely in my own adoption closet because I was embarrassed about being labeled as “different”, with no way of altering that. All of a sudden, I had a chance to change and have a real heritage and a real identity. Would I even like what I found? I was willing to take that risk.

Once I had those precious birth documents in hand, I spent many months lurking in local libraries and courthouses. In a large, three-ring binder I collected a paper trail of data about my birth parents and my half-siblings. Every time I found a new tid-bit of information, I wanted to learn more. My birth mother came from the south and had worked as a waitress. I pictured her to be something like the character, “Flo” from the TV comedy show, “Alice” in a diner restaurant uniform, a bee hive hair do and a note pad in her hand for taking orders saying, “What’ll it be honey?” I pictured my birth father to be a tough-talking, football-loving, all-American factory worker on some assembly line with car parts rolling by. I quickly went from thinking, “Adopted? Who? Me?” and “Why me?”” to “I want to know all about them” and “I would do ANYTHING to meet them”. It was an intense bargaining phase.

That bargaining stage motivated me to keep working thoroughly and methodically as I took notes and copied forms found on microfiches and in old criss-cross directories. (pre computers). It drove me to make phone calls to complete strangers and assert myself, and it inspired me to even join an adoption support group and network with people like myself.

I was unhappy to learn that my birth mother had passed away in 1976.  I would never have had the chance to meet her. However, the sad stage didn’t last for very long because her ex-husband, (not my father), told me about her two other daughters and where I might find them. I was also closing in on making contact with my birth father, who still lived locally. During the whole search process doors constantly shut, but others opened wider than I ever imagined possible.

Between 1987 and 1988, I found and met my birth father, some of my birth siblings, cousins and an aunt. Everyone welcomed me and was delighted and amazed at how persistent I was in finding my missing family members. I finally felt accomplished and complete, and I definitely love what and whom I found!

It would have been easy to do nothing. I could have avoided the fear of disappointment or the disapproval of my adoptive parents, to whom I was tremendously loyal, but I refused to stay silent and closeted forever. I could have played it safe and avoided the risk of potential rejection from my birth relatives. I could have kept myself sequestered safely and predictably from unknown waters, but instead, I dove off the proverbial high board and submerged myself in research involving the current whereabouts of my biological people. My adoptive parents accepted what I did, and my birth-family members are grateful that I found everyone. I will never regret having the courage to find and contact them and also work through my personal issues about being an adopted person.

Paige Strickland

Paige Strickland Bio: 

Paige A. Strickland is a Spanish teacher / tutor who has written a memoir about growing up in the 1960s and 70s as an adopted kid who found her birth family in 1987-88.  The story addresses the grief and loss issues most adoptees face throughout their lives, intertwined with the struggle for both social and self-acceptance. Paige has been married 28 years with two daughters, an almost son-in-law and 5 + cats. In her spare time she enjoys pursuing her writing interests and teaching Zumba Fitness™ classes. Paige Strickland is in the process of publishing her book, Akin to the Truth: A Memoir of Adoption and Identity. 

You can visit Paige’s website, join her on Twitter, Facebook, as well as LinkedIn

Sonia Marsh Says:

I love your persistence and positive attitude in attempting to find your relatives and the way it felt like a research project you’re going to solve. I also like when you mention, “During the whole search process doors constantly shut, but others opened wider than I ever imagined possible.” A very encouraging and positive ending to your hard work and determination to find your birth roots.

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Sonia Marsh is on her virtual blog tour this month.

You can check out all the interviews here, and today I’m so happy to be a guest on Bob Lowry’s:Satisfying Retirement blog.

Do you have a “My Gutsy Story” you’d like to share?

To submit your own, “My Gutsy Story” you can find all the information, and our sponsors on the “My Gutsy Story” contest page. (VIDEO) Submission guidelines here.

The vote for your favorite of September, “My Gutsy Story” submissions starts on September 27, and ends on October 10th. The winner will be announced on October 11th.

 

Check out my new office

September 20, 2012 by Sonia Marsh

If  you’ve seen me on a Hangout video with Jason Matthews’ Indie Authors show, you will know that I have a paper towel holder and a red cutting board behind my desk as well as  a stainless steel toaster and tea kettle. I tried to hide some of the kitchen mess with an orchid from my living room table, but that didn’t work well.

After seven years in my kitchen, I now have a desk in a proper room.

Just in case you didn’t see my kitchen, check this out. Here I’m introducing Jason Matthews and our wonderful panel of indie authors from my kitchen. Looks like I forgot to put the oven dish with foil away. Two of my sons were home during these videos, and I told them not to come into the kitchen while we were recording. Poor kids were thirsty and starving, they had to go out and get food as they couldn’t get to the fridge.

I converted my youngest son’s bedroom into an office and purchased a used cherry wood table and file cabinet, from Craig’s list.

You should have seen Duke and I struggle to carry this table off his truck into our garage, and then slide it along our narrow hallway into my son’s bedroom. Duke had to take the door off the hinges as it barely fit.

Can you see the photo on the wall in front of me? Well that’s a present from a friend in Belize, Olivera Rusu, a professional photographer on the island where we lived called, Ambergris Caye. She sent me this photo for my birthday; it’s from Azul, a small resort about half a mile north of where we lived.

Azul Resort by Olivera Rusu Photography
Goff’s Caye, above our TV in living room.

Duke received this beautiful photograph of Goff’s Caye, an island eleven miles from Belize City.

What do you think? Comments?

Sonia Marsh is on her virtual blog tour this month.

You can check out all my interviews here, and tomorrow I shall be in France with Stephanie Dagg and her wonderful Blog in France.

I shall also be speaking on Monday September 24th at Signal Hill Library with one of the winners of the “My Gutsy Story” contest, Jill Fales. Remember Jill?

 

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