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Do You Really Want to Live to 120? The Truth About Healthspan vs. Lifespan

June 4, 2026 by Sonia Marsh Leave a Comment

Sonia Marsh is questioning whether she wants to live to 120
Sonia is pondering the point of longevity.

Everywhere I turn these days, someone—usually a billionaire with more money than they know what to do with—is talking about living to 120 or beyond. People like Bryan Johnson, Jeff Bezos, and Mark Zuckerberg are investing billions into the quest to slow aging and extend human life.

Longevity has become one of the hottest topics in the world. Maybe it’s because AI knows everything I research, listen to, or talk about, so my news feeds and podcasts are now filled with experts promising ways to extend my life. Every day, there’s a new supplement, a new biohacking trick, or a new scientific breakthrough claiming it could help us live longer.

But here’s the question I keep asking myself:

Do I really want to live to 120?

The answer isn’t as simple as yes or no.

Living Longer Isn’t the Goal

What interests me far more than lifespan is healthspan.

Healthspan refers to the number of years we remain healthy, active, independent, and able to do the things we love. To me, that’s what really matters.

I don’t want to spend the last twenty years of my life sitting in a chair, dependent on medications, and unable to travel, swim, snorkel, or enjoy adventures.

I want to remain strong enough to carry my own luggage, curious enough to keep exploring the world, and healthy enough to enjoy every stage of life—including becoming a grandmother.

The Medication Trap

One reason I pay attention to healthspan is that I see what happens when health issues begin to pile up.

Many people I know are taking eight, ten, or even more medications every day.

I often listen to these doctors’ podcasts discussing how modern medicine works. Physicians are trained to follow protocols. If you have a particular condition, there is usually a medication for it. The problem is that medications often come with side effects. Then another medication is prescribed to treat those side effects. Before long, a person can find themselves taking a handful of pills every day.

Of course, medications can be lifesaving and necessary in many situations. But my personal goal is to avoid that path as much as possible through prevention.

So how do we increase our chances of staying healthy as we age?

Exercise: Use It or Lose It

Exercise is one of the most powerful tools we have for extending healthspan.

There are two components I focus on:

Cardio

Cardiovascular exercise keeps the heart and lungs healthy and supports endurance as we age.

For me, that means swimming, one of my favorite forms of exercise.

Strength Training

After age 50, adults typically begin losing muscle mass every year. This loss accelerates as we get older.

Why does this happen?

Our muscle fibers naturally shrink with age, and hormone levels such as testosterone and estrogen decline. The result is less strength, poorer balance, and an increased risk of falls.

That’s why lifting weights has become non-negotiable for me.

Muscle isn’t just about looking fit. It’s about maintaining independence.

Sleep: The New Superpower

Sleep has become another hot topic in the health world—and for good reason.

Most experts recommend seven to eight hours of sleep per night.

Sleep supports:

  • Cognitive processing
  • Physical repair
  • Emotional regulation
  • Immune function
  • Memory consolidation

I’ve also noticed that my sleep improves when I avoid television, scrolling on my phone, or consuming too much information right before bed. One habit I’ve adopted is finishing dinner at least three hours before bed.

The older I get, the more I realize that quality sleep isn’t a luxury. It’s a necessity.

Nutrition: You Can’t Outrun a Bad Diet

Nutrition may be one of the biggest factors influencing healthspan.

If there is one thing I consistently hear from longevity experts, it’s this:

Reduce sugar.

Excess sugar contributes to inflammation throughout the body. Chronic inflammation has been linked to many of the diseases people fear most as they age.

Ultra-processed foods, sugary drinks, and highly refined carbohydrates may be convenient, but they often come at a cost.

I try to focus on real food, protein, vegetables, healthy fats, and minimizing added sugars whenever possible.

Am I perfect? Absolutely not.

But I believe small, consistent choices made over decades matter more than occasional bursts of perfection.

Meet the Man Behind the “Don’t Die” Movement

Have you come across Bryan Johnson and his documentary Don’t Die: The Man Who Wants to Live Forever? He has turned himself into a human experiment in the quest to slow aging and extend life.

His daily routine includes strict meal timing (nothing after 11 a.m.), extensive medical testing, dozens of supplements (Which he also sells), intense exercise, early bedtimes (8:30 p.m.), and constant monitoring of his body’s biomarkers. Reports have estimated that he spends around $2 million a year on his anti-aging protocols.

Watching Bryan Johnson’s video on his daily routine made me wonder: Is this really the future we want? Or are we becoming so focused on avoiding death that we forget to enjoy living?

So, Do I Want to Live to 120?

Not really.

Part of me wonders whether we’ve become so obsessed with living longer that we’ve forgotten to ask what those extra years will actually look like.

If I make it to 120, do you know how much exercise I’d need to keep moving? How many laps would I need to swim? How much weight lifting would I have to squeeze into my week? And let’s not even talk about the plastic surgery industry. If people start living to 120, are we all supposed to spend decades trying not to look like old prunes?

Will 120 be the new 60?

Maybe.

But I suspect the real question isn’t how long we can live. It’s whether we can remain healthy, independent, curious, and excited about life while we’re here.

I’d rather be an active, adventurous 90-year-old than a miserable 120-year-old counting pills and doctor’s appointments.

But only if I can remain healthy, active, independent, and engaged with life.

I don’t dream about simply adding years to my life.

I dream about adding life to my years.

If I can still be swimming, traveling, learning, writing, and embracing new adventures at 90, then I’ll happily keep going.

For me, that’s what Gutsy Living is all about—not living forever, but living fully.

What are your thoughts? Please comment below.

 

I’ve Forgotten How to Drive — My Tesla’s Drives Better Than Me

May 24, 2026 by Sonia Marsh 4 Comments

"Sonia Marsh driving her Tesla with Full Self-Driving on, smiling and embracing a gutsy, independent lifestyle."
“Trusting the ride and myself. This is living gutsy.”

Why I Let a Tesla Become My Private Chauffeur

I have a private chauffeur now, and honestly, he drives better than I do.

His name is FSD.

Yes, my Tesla’s Full Self-Driving system has officially taken over my life.

My son convinced me to try it, and I admit: I’m hooked.

At first, it wasn’t easy handing complete control over to a car. The idea felt terrifying. I kept hovering over the steering wheel, ready to grab it at any second. But after a few months of using Tesla FSD, I trust it more than I trust myself.

Especially at night.

My Tesla “sees” better than I do in the dark. It sticks to the rules better than most humans, too.

I mean, who actually makes a complete stop at a stop sign anymore? Three full seconds can feel like an eternity.

My Tesla, however, behaves like a polite British butler.

“No, you go first…”

It stops and gives way to cars even when it technically doesn’t have to.

The Strange Joy of Watching My Car Think

One of the things I love most about Tesla Full Self-Driving is the giant screen showing everything around me in real time.

A bicyclist appears with a cute little bicycle icon. Pedestrians show up as tiny moving avatars. Cars glide across the screen like a video game.

And even when FSD isn’t activated, the car politely dings when the traffic light turns green — just in case you’re busy searching for a YouTube podcast at the light.

How civilized is that?

Why I Hate Driving (And Why FSD Changed Everything)

The reason I listened to my son when he said, “Mom, you’ll love FSD,” is that I’ve never liked driving.

I grew up living in France and England, where public transportation was normal. I spent my younger years taking trains, buses, and the Tube instead of sitting behind a steering wheel for hours.

Driving long distances has always exhausted me.

Unlike many Americans who grew up with a car at sixteen, I never loved road trips if I had to do the driving myself.

That’s why Tesla’s Full Self-Driving appealed to me so much.

My son lives in Santa Barbara, 147 miles (236 km) from me through the nightmare traffic of Los Angeles. Depending on traffic, it has taken me up to four hours to reach his house.

One week after leasing my Tesla with FSD, I let the car drive me all the way through Los Angeles to Santa Barbara without touching the steering wheel or brake once.

Not once.

It took courage at first, but I did it. And now? I can’t imagine going back.

The Moment I Realized I No Longer Know How to Drive

The other morning, before sunrise, I decided to override the car and take a different route to my gym.

I clicked the button to disengage FSD and took control of the Tesla myself.

I moved into the right lane to turn. Suddenly, the driver behind me slammed on his brakes and honked furiously.

I had completely cut him off. The shocking part? I honestly hadn’t seen him.

That was the moment I realized: Sonia, you no longer know how to drive. Let your private chauffeur handle it.

Will Self-Driving Cars Help Older Drivers Stay Independent?

So what’s the real reason I have Tesla FSD? Because I believe this technology is the future.

And if I’m lucky enough to still be alive at 85 or 90, perhaps with weaker eyesight and slower reflexes, maybe Full Self-Driving technology will help people like me remain independent longer.

Maybe it could prevent elderly drivers from losing their freedom the moment someone takes away their car keys. That thought matters to me.

I know self-driving technology scares some people, but honestly? Some drivers scare me more.

  • FSD stays in the lane.
  • It doesn’t text.
  • It doesn’t have road rage.
  • It doesn’t get distracted.

And these days, that already puts it ahead of many drivers on the road.

Are Self-Driving Cars the Future?

So now I’m curious. Have I convinced you that getting used to self-driving technology might actually be a smart idea? Would you trust a car to drive you through Los Angeles traffic? Or am I completely crazy for handing over control to my Tesla chauffeur?

Let me know in the comments below.

 

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