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I Got My Medical Clearance From the Peace Corps

July 30, 2015 by Sonia Marsh 7 Comments

Extracting Influenza Virus Vaccine — Vaccinations-Photo credit-click on photo

I GOT MY MEDICAL CLEARANCE FROM THE PEACE CORPS

After numerous shots, blood tests, x-rays and doctor visits, I finally got my medical clearance from the Peace Corps.

It’s only been a year since I first applied to serve, but somehow, it feels like forever. As some of you may have read,my first application was rejected, and then on January 14th, 2015, I rewrote my resume and received my invitation to serve on May 14th.

On July 29th, 2015, I finally received my medical clearance, which means, I’m good to go to Lesotho, on October 5^th. This may not seem like a long time to you, but so much has happened in my life in the past year, including my divorce, finding a place to live, and passing the TESOL certificate in London.

Now I admit that patience is not one of my strengths, and I realize that I shall need to slow down in Lesotho as this is an important part of our Peace Corps training, while learning to adapt to a totally new and unfamiliar country.

When I look back at how much stuff I had to go through, it seems like it was a full-time job to get my medical and dental paperwork in order.

It’s not like I have any illnesses, or take medication of any kind, but nevertheless, I had to fix certain “problems.”

Dental Exams:

A full set of x-rays in digital format.
A detailed dental exam with measurements of the distance between the gum line and each tooth, (not sure of what the dental terminology is for this.)

Results:

I had to have one crown, which then resulted in an unexpected root canal. I was worried sick about the root canal, because of stories I’d heard of how painful it can be, and surprisingly, I didn’t feel a thing. The crown actually hurt more than the root canal.

Medical Exams:

The following vaccinations:

MMR (Measles, Mumps and Rubella.) When I was a child, I had the measles, and there was confusion as to why I wasn’t getting vaccinated against measles. I had several back and forth e-mails with the Peace Corps nurse explaining this.
Polio: Another vaccination
Typhoid: I accidentally got two, and paid $150 for one of these. I then worried that the Peace Corps would tell me that I was not allowed to go, as I’d had two vaccinations. I had to explain my mistake, and this also caused some delays.
Yellow Fever: I had to find a special urgent care that offers yellow fever shots. This also cost $150.
Tetanus: I got a shot, and actually, that’s the one that hurt my upper arm the most, especially during my shoulder press exercises at the gym.
HIV/AIDS blood test. I’m clear.
Tuberculosis: I came out 5mm positive, as I was vaccinated for this in Europe as a child, and they don’t seem to vaccinate n the U.S. I therefore had to get a chest x-ray, to prove that my lungs are clear. Apparently my lungs are long, so the technician had to x-ray them 3 times, and of course I’m worried about all the radiation.
Colonoscopy: I had one six years ago, and thankfully no polyps, so I’m not supposed to have another for 4 more years. Even that required a personal statement explaining the results.

Now, I’m focusing on the type of backpack I need to buy. I was told 65-85 litres, however that’s enormous. So the researching backpacks at REI, online, and other places, and we also have a long list of items to bring to Lesotho, southern Africa. We are not allowed to leave Lesotho during our 3-month pre-service training, nor can we leave (i.e. shop in South Africa–across the border) for another 3 months after that. So we have to pack the stuff we need. The problem is, we’re not sure what we’ll need, and we’re limited to two suitcases.

World___Thailand_Huts_on_stilts_on_the_island_of_Koh_Samui__Thailand_061760_-700x525 — I’m teaching English in Koh Samui, Thailand, with the Bamboo Project.

More about getting ready for the Peace Corps, and my trip to Thailand, next week.

Am I Going to Live on Papa in Lesotho?

July 23, 2015 by Sonia Marsh 13 Comments

I’m getting prepared for my 27 months in the Mountain Kingdom of Lesotho, in southern Africa, and it looks like I’m going to live on Papa in Lesotho. Papa even has its own special wooden utensil for mixing.

Papa, seems to be the main starch eaten for breakfast, lunch and dinner. It’s bland, so you can add milk for breakfast or vegetables for dinner.

“At the heart of the Basotho diet is a corn-based food called papa. Papa is served almost every lunch and dinner. Papa le moroho (cooked greens), papa le nama (meat), papa le lebese (milk), papa le linaoa (beans), papa le beet root, paper le lihoete (carrots), papa le mahe (eggs); the possibilities are endless. This is because papa is a classic starch. It is a mildly flavored, completely unseasoned base to every meal.” — Beth Spencer.

My author friend Lauri Kubuitsile from Botswana, introduced me to Rethabile from Lesotho, who now lives in Paris. He then informed me about a chef from Lesotho and her cookbook. Here is a BBC video on Chef Ska Mirriam Motteane, and her goal to teach women to become chefs in Lesotho.

The Mountain Kingdom Cover_ — Click on cover to see on Amazon

I’m also reading Greg’s fascinating memoir, The Mountain School, and learning about what to expect as a primary education teacher in Lesotho. I’m so excited to meet him for lunch tomorrow in San Diego. Greg lived in Lesotho as a Peace Corps Volunteer, and as I’ve connected with other Peace Corps Volunteers and shall be asking him to answer all of our questions about his life as a primary education teacher in the Mountain Kingdom. I’m already learning about what to expect.

I hope there is more to eat in Lesotho than Papa, and Moroho.

Moroho consists of greens: spinach, cabbage, collard greens etc. I shall have to bring some seeds to plant my own vegetables.

I wonder where I shall get my protein from? Eggs? They have beef, mutton and chicken, but Papa, seems to form the main part of the dish.

Anyway, I’m getting more and more excited about this life change, and hopefully the Peace Corps won’t turn me down at the last minute for some medical reason. I’ve uploaded all my medical and dental exams to their portal, which is quite time-consuming.

If you have any suggestions as to what to bring or to plant, please let me know.

What’s It Like to Date In Your 50s

July 21, 2015 by Sonia Marsh 4 Comments

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I’ve been dating, so I figured I’d share what it’s like to date in your 50s, and don’t worry, there’s no naughty stuff here.

The best way to date in your 50s, and to not get upset or frustrated, is to treat dating as a research project rather than an act of desperation.

Why do women never seem to give up on the “Cinderella” dream, even when we’re in our 50s?

If you’re confident, and have “semi-realistic” goals, regarding what you consider to be your ideal mate, you’d better start developing a sense of humor if you want to stay sane in today’s online dating world.

Dating in your 50s, and older, is like dating in your twenties but worse.

My Observations:

Most people lie about their age, stating that they’re ten years younger in their online profile. I don’t lie about my age. I’m 57, and proud of it. I plan to continue being honest about my age even though men say they want younger women. The opposite is true as well.
Most men are fatter and older than their photos. (To be fair, I’ve heard the same comment coming from men, about women mis-representing themselves on their photos.) We don’t need to show what we looked like at 25, when we’re 65!
Most men in the U.S. think that a motorcycle or a sporty car, is the way to get a woman’s attention. Come on, can’t you be a little more creative/different? The men I saw on U.K. dating sites had more intellectual photos, like “swinging in a hammock and reading a “real book.” OK, I don’t care for motorcycles, or fancy cars, as I don’t believe it’s your car, when I see a Lamborghini. Why are you on a free dating site if you’re so successful? I’m sure many women are attracted to your materialistic toys, but that’s not me. I’d prefer to see you on a camel in the Sahara desert, or scrubbing the elephants on a vacation in Thailand. At least that’s different, and shows that you’re unique and stand out from the rest.
Women don’t like to see a man’s photo with an ex-spouse or girlfriend clinging onto him, even if he’s tried to photoshop her out of the photo. We are good at detecting red nail polish, especially when it’s grabbing your waist.
Women especially don’t want to see you with that “boyish” grin on your face when half-naked show girls cling to your sides. That might impress your guy friends, but not a woman whom you’re asking out on a date.

Here’s my advice.

Treat dating as a research project and you can learn something from it, I promise.
You can learn about yourself, and what’s important to you in a relationship when you date.
You can enjoy the company of another man when there’s a stimulating conversation.
You can become a journalist, and take notes for your next article or novel.
If there is no connection, dig for that one quality or quirk that you find fascinating and use it in your next novel.
You can learn to become more accepting and tolerant.
You can laugh, especially if you haven’t been out on a date in a while.
You can learn to figure out the best way to escape without hurting the other person’s feelings.
You can become friends, although I’ve been told that men hate to hear, “Let’s be friends.”
If you’re looking for love, you can move slowly and see what develops.

Here’s a video on dating after 50. They selected 6 women, and here’s the message I got from this, that rings true:

“You can learn about yourself and what you’re willing to accept.”

Here’s a 15 minute podcast on “How to Attract Your Soul-Mate.”

“If you’re thinking about getting back into dating after a long hiatus, take the time to figure out what fits for you now versus what fit for you when you were in your twenties. Be open to trying new things and moving out of your comfort zone. And, if by chance the opportunity for a passionate romance, comes you way, I say go for it!”– Karen Kanya Daley, MA/MFT

In the meantime, to all the women out there waiting for a date with the “right” man for you, why not enjoy Magic Mike XXL for therapy. I have seen it twice.

Any comments? Please share your stories or points of view.

Less Stuff = Freedom + Happiness

July 14, 2015 by Sonia Marsh 6 Comments

empty-room-with-bed — Click on photo to go to website

I’m a “happy” person so why did I buy a book called, Happier: Learn the Secrets to Daily Joy and Lasting Fulfillment, by Tal Ben-Shahar, Ph.D?

Because it explains why I want to go back to Africa, and work with people who have far less than me. Here’s why:

“While levels of material prosperity are on the rise, so are levels of depression. Even though our generation–in most Western countries as well as in an increasing number of places in the East–is wealthier than previous generations, we are not happier for it.” —Tal Ben-Shahar, Ph.D.

I’ve been trying to figure out why I have become happier with less “stuff,” and why I’m attracted to living a simple life.

I don’t have a home, or furniture, except for two armchairs, a Chinese chest, and a tropical painting that inspires me to stay “gutsy.” Nothing within my control can prevent me from following my passion to ‘be free’ and experience new adventures.

Volunteering in a Mayan Village in Belize in 2009, and seeing these beautiful children, full of smiles, made me realize that happiness does not come from having stuff. Look at the small girl on the left; her parents can’t afford a pair of shoes.

Belize kids — The children I met while volunteering in a Mayan village in Red Bank, Belize, 2009.

Here’s what makes me happy.

Click on Photo- credit from malidoma.com

Am I being selfish in wanting to work with children in Africa? Perhaps. I realize that there are going to be many challenges adapting to a new life in Lesotho, in southern Africa, but just to feel the love and enthusiasm of the children, is enough to fuel my own energy.

I became fascinated with photo-journalist Alissa Everett, and what she has done to bring us closer to the positive side of what we don’t see in African countries, such as the DRC-(Democratic Republic of Congo.) She is truly “gutsy” and not only has she served in the Peace Corps, which is what I shall be doing starting in October, 2015, (Read more here) but she shares her stories during my interview with her.

This is her recent wedding photo with a message, I truly love.

Alissa Everett's wedding photo credit — Alissa Everett’s wedding photo credit

I realize we are all different, however, it saddens me to see people who have everything in life to be happy, and yet they’re unhappy.

Who Has Time to Read Long Blog Posts These Days?

July 6, 2015 by Sonia Marsh 21 Comments

attention-spans-shorter-longer-1024x512 — Click on photo to go to Nick Leffler’s post for more details

Who has time to read long blog posts these days, let alone take the time to comment?

I wish I did, but I don’t.

I only have time to read a few blog posts a week. Forget crafting detailed and thoughtful comments, the way I used to a few years ago. I know I’m not alone here; other bloggers have expressed the same.

Things are changing in the blogging world, and just as I was about to write, “Our attention spans have decreased,” I found a better reason expressed by Nick Leffler in his blog post:

“Attention spans aren’t getting shorter, they’re becoming more selective for good content.”

— Nick Leffler

After all, states Nick, we’re able to sit through a 3+hour movie, so our attention spans have not decreased.

As Nick Leffler says:

“We’re getting more selective about what we pay attention to. There’s a lot of information coming at us. It used to be just newspapers where we got our news, then came radio, then TV, then Internet, then our brains exploded.

There’s a lot of great stuff to read, watch, and listen to. There’s also a ton of crap.

Attention spans haven’t gotten shorter, they’re just more selective for good content. So if I’m not writing good content, I’ll lose my audience within 8 seconds and it’s not their fault, it’s 100% mine.”

There is presently a shift towards writing shorter (300-word) blog posts. How do you feel about that?

There is of course an exception to this; longer, more detailed posts (about 1,000 words or more,) from experts who cover specific topics that readers are searching for.

So from now on, I’m going to write shorter blog posts, whenever I have something to share. My upcoming adventures lend themselves to shorter more frequent posts, just like we see on FaceBook.

What about you. Are you changing the length of your posts?